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How do I deal with a spoiled younger brother?
Posted Tuesday August 3 2021, 1:39 pm
My 10 yo kid brother has always been spoiled by my mom. He's the baby of the family, and has had life easy ever since he was born. He has one chore, which is to set the table, and often never even does it, and when I try to remind him to, my parents get mad at me, and tell me to just help out. I'm not unwilling to help out, as setting the table is a pretty simple task, but it's his responsibility and he only actually does his chore like, at most, once a week, the other times, we just give up and do it ourselves. And recently, he seems to be going through this phase. He's super vicious and mean, throws tantrums about EVERYTHING, and doesn't even realize how bad his behavior is. He will not do anything he doesn't want to, unless he is forced ...
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Spending the night at your boyfriends house.
Posted Monday July 26 2021, 5:25 pm
How did you guys talk to your parents about spending the night at your boyfriends house or telling them you are going to and that they can't stop you because you are an adult? Because this week i wanna be straight forward and tell my parents what I'm going to do. Without me having to ask them. Cause im 20 and im an adult. And they treat me like im a child but yet they want me to be an adult. I come from a Hispanic household and i know that be a big no. But i rather be honest with them then lying behind their backs and lying to them that im going to my friends house but really at my boyfriend house. So please give me advice on how i can talk to them about it.
Please don't judge. I just want advice.
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My Brother-In-Law Wants to be Included on the Deed for Our Home
Posted Saturday July 24 2021, 5:23 pm
I'm a 30 year-old woman seeking to buy a home with my mother-in-law. Note, I call her my mother-in-law because I’ve been with her son for over 10 years. Her son and I are not married yet. She loves me like a daughter and has stepped to fill the role as my mother ever since my biological mother passed away on November 6th, 2018.
My reasons for purchasing this home with her have nothing to do with me looking for a handout. I’m actually trying to do this with as little help as possible, while having the least impact on anyone else.
I explained that I don’t like the idea of getting something for nothing and my mother-in-law who loves me like a daughter said that she would help me pay for the home, using money...
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sisters fued
Posted Sunday July 18 2021, 5:52 am
why is your eldest sister feels like shes the alpha in the family?
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Is it a good or bad idea to let a 15 year old visit her mom in jail?
Posted Wednesday July 14 2021, 5:17 pm
The charge is a check fraud charge and it is a seven month sentence. My daughter she seems to be handling it fine. I told her right away about it and she reacted pretty calmly. I told her mom did the wrong thing and is rightfully serving her punishment. They have a good relationship. The main problem I have is she will see her mom in a jail jumpsuit and see guards and other inmates that could be intimidating. Is that ok for a 15 year old to see? Actually my daughter does not seem scared but instead seems excited and enthusiastic to visit. This is strange to me. Do you find this normal? My daughter seems to find the idea of her mom having to wearing a uniform, sharing a room funny. I wonder why she would think it is funny. My wife says bring...
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I'm 22 and I think my mom is controlling me
Posted Thursday July 8 2021, 11:35 pm
I'm 22 and I think my mom is controlling me. I'll give one example.
So recently me and my mother went to the grocery. I was wearing a mask and she wasn't, (since some places are now allowing for masks off). Before we even left the house, I had my mask under my nose. Since it's been a year that people are required to wear it out, I often times forget im even wearing it as I've become used to it. Next thing I know my mom is screaming at me to take it off. Calling me names and all types of things. I just try to tell her its not a big deal and its just a mask but she gets even angrier.
She continues to yell at me in the car until we arrive at the store. At this point im crying my eyes out because she won't stop ye...
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Is this even abuse?
Posted Saturday July 3 2021, 1:15 pm
My mother has always been super controlling, and angers easily. She often insults me, either directly when she's angry about something, or passive aggressively in pretty much every conversation. She's called me lazy, worthless, stupid, psychotic, told me I should go to a (mental) hospital, and that I'd amount to nothing when I grow up. These were all on different occasions, but you get the idea. And in normal conversations, she'll often bring up how smart other kids are, imply that I should eat less and exercise more, and talk about how talented other kids my age are. Any time she compliments me, it's always followed by an insult, like how that top looks good for girls my age, but my arms are too fat. My waist is the only slim thing about m...
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Am I not allowed to get upset about this?
Posted Saturday July 3 2021, 12:57 pm
I've wanted to get my ears pierced since forever, but my mother hasn't let me until recently. Actually, she promised me that she would take me (because you need a parent or guardian to get them pierced) about 2 years ago, but since then, she's just kept pushing it back and not going through with her promise even though I kept reminding her and asking her. She always has some excuse. So finally, she made an appointment to get them pierced recently. Only, the day that I was supposed to go, she cancelled AGAIN, and moved it without even telling me. Her reasoning is that the new Delta variant of COVID is a lot worse, and I have only just gotten my first shot. The problem is, she was the one who wouldn't let me get the vaccine when it was first ...
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My sister is going through something, but I don't know how to help.
Posted Wednesday June 16 2021, 9:05 pm
My little sister (11-14 yo) is going through something, and I have been trying to help as much as I can. Recently, she told me something about herself (that she has a type of mental illness; it's self-diagnosed) and I'm having a hard time believing it.
The reason for that is because throughout her whole life, she liked to pretend to be someone/something else (she would copy what she sees/reads/hears about), so when I realized that she only started showing signs of the mental illness after she had read something about it, I had started having doubts.
I have talked to her about it, and I am trying to be supportive and keep an open mind, but I honestly don't know what to do. This is way bigger than anything else, ...
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My mom is emotionally/verbally abusive
Posted Wednesday May 5 2021, 5:49 am
I’m a 22 year old adult. My mom is now 50.
When I was a toddler, my father cheated on my mom & thus they had an extremely toxic, domestic abusive type of relationship. As a result, my mom used me to let out her anger & frustration. Her way of discipline was screaming, threatening, locking me in the bedroom, & often times hitting me. She would always call me a lazy, spoiled, undisciplined child. The rest of the time however, she was very nurturing & loving. On occasion, my parents would showering me with material items. Since I’m an only child, people have always assumed I was privileged.
Today, however, my mother still abuses me. I am very fully aware that she, on the other hand, has helpe...
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I have BABY FEVER with a capital B
Posted Monday May 3 2021, 6:27 am
Hi :) 22/F
I have a dilemma. My toddler is two and I want a baby really bad. My boyfriend (Best friend for 3 years - dating for 4 months) is not really keen on it at this very moment. My mom won't be happy at all, but it is all I can think about. How do I get rid of the feeling?
ps. I do not have any friends with babies (or who I can baby sit) and I've also tried to get a puppy or kitten but there is non available at the moment.
Please help me...
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My father won’t stop tormenting me
Posted Thursday April 15 2021, 11:20 pm
I’m 22 years old and live with my parents (for now). My father constantly torments me. He’ll say I’m worthless, good for nothing and a parasite. He’ll comments things like “you’re not normal” if I make a tiny mistake like drop something or bump into something, making me feel even worse about it. He dehumanizes me often times referring me as an “it”.
My mom often times takes his side, stating he just “cares about me” and “wants me to do something good with my life.”. I don’t know how to feel. I don’t want this man to keep affecting me emotionally anymore, and no matter how hard I try to ignore him, he’ll still make comments.
I also don’t want to feel like his words are true, but it’s hard. I don’t know what to do..
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Mother forcing catholicism on me
Posted Friday April 2 2021, 11:09 pm
Hi,
I'm 25 years old, and I was raised catholic my entire life. I do not consider myself to be practicing, and i've struggled with my faith in the religion for a very long time now. But the thing is, I only went to church just to please my mom... I've tried telling her many times that I don't want to lie anymore and be dishonest in a church but she just doesn't seem to get it. I respect her religious views and i just wish she would respect my choices but she's doesn't get it. I feel like she's basing my humanity on my faith. Despite there being many good qualities to me, she doesn't see that at all and to her being religious trumps everything. Her not accepting me for who i am has hurt me, and me not being religious has hurt...
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teenage granddaughter shutting me out suddenly
Posted Monday March 22 2021, 5:35 pm
My soon to be 13 year old granddaughter who I had a very close relationship, has in the last months not returned my text messages and seems to not want to spend time with me. Her father, my son, says she is into her friends and phone, which I totally understand, but totally shutting me out of her life is hurtful. What should I do?
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I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong
Posted Monday March 15 2021, 9:43 pm
I don't normally complain like this but this was the first time I'd ever asked for personal advice. Ok so I have a nice family well, they're nice most of the time. It's been a while since this started but my dad has been really toxic lately. It's sometimes for silly reasons but I feel it's gotten out of control. When I rearranged the furniture in my room a little bit today, my dad got completely mad at me. He said I was being really irritating and would take my room away. I don't want that to happen. And that's not the only thing. He also tells me that I'm lacking common sense and shouts at me for no reason. I know I'm NOT lacking common sense. I always feel really depressed. He compares me and my sister to other kids and tells us that we'r...
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How to open up to my parents about bullying that went on?
Posted Friday February 19 2021, 7:32 pm
I'm a 17 year old guy and this all happened 2-4 years ago (so when I was between the ages of 13-15) but recently it's been back on my mind for some reason, and I never opened up to my parents about it at the time and I'm unsure how to address it because if I bring it up now, they might get annoyed by the fact that I didn't bring it up to them at the time. The reason I didn't bring it up at the time though is because one of the people who was bullying me was formerly my best friend so my parents knew his family well, and so I thought they wouldn't believe me. But recently, it's been on my mind more again (because I've had a falling-out with another falling out with a friend recently- don't worry, nothing malicious went on there, she recently...
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My overprotective mother is standing in my way
Posted Monday February 15 2021, 2:59 am
Hi. I am 22/F. I've been in an abusive relationship for 3 years of which I have a 2y old daughter of whom I have full custody. I broke up with my ex a month ago. I moved back to my mother, but I've started talking to my best friend(also my ex's best friend) and we just clicked. It's difficult to live with my mother because I am not used to it seeing that I lived with my ex for so long. And we also get along better if we don't see each other often. So I want to move in with him, but how do I tell my mom I am moving in with my ex's friend?
My mom is a difficult person and gets offended easily. I am scared to tell her because I do not want to disappoint her, but I really want to move. Please help?
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My mom does not want me to get engaged
Posted Monday November 2 2020, 7:08 am
Hi. First of all I want to mention that I am 22.I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years. We have a baby together. My mom never had a close relationship with him from the beginning. He is not perfect but I love him very much. He proposed to me this weekend. When I told my mom she didn't take it well at all. She kept on blaming me and said that I always disappoint her. She started shouting and saying that she hopes it's the best decision I could make. Now she does not want to talk to us at all. What makes things difficult is that we are currently staying with her until we finish building our house (should be done by December). i am really fed up with her always blaming me and never just being happy for me. She is really a toxic perso...
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Sister-in-law Drama
Posted Friday October 30 2020, 11:12 pm
Hello. This question is about my sister-in-law (we are both in our late 20s). I think she has a problem because she likes to sleep with married men and then have kids with them. She told me that she does this because "all the good ones are taken", and she's hoping that if she has kids with them, they will leave their wives. She already had two kids by two different married men, and they did not leave their wife, so she is stuck being a single mom. I am constantly called upon to help her take care of her kids (I'm married to her brother and she doesn't have any sisters, so her family just expects me to help). But being a married woman myself, I don't agree with her lifestyle and it really bothers me. And I definitely don't feel lik...
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Should he blame her?
Posted Tuesday October 13 2020, 7:01 pm
Recently, my dad got a phone call from a random woman in China asking him to ask my mom to "stay away from her husband." My mom explained the situation to us. Apparently, the woman's husband had previously pursued her in college (he wrote a love letter??? My mom didn't respond to it though, but I think she should have just rejected it outright), and about 5 years ago, at a college reunion, she was added to a group chat with all her friends including the guy. They all chatted, you know how reunions go, and he started spouting that he missed their time together in college and all that flowery nonsense. He also alluded to still having feelings for her?!? (I know, what a douche) And then his wife found out, used his phone, texted my m...
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