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Parents disagree w/ my decision, but I need their support
Posted Tuesday September 22 2020, 11:58 am
I'm a twenty year old former college student. As a freshman, I became friends with a couple girls in my dorm who were dealing Adderall and Ritalin to people using them as study aids. I allowed myself to get talked into helping them deal. Long story short, we eventually got caught, expelled, and are now facing criminal charges.
The prosecution is offering a plea deal. In exchange for a guilty plea, I'll only have to do a year in jail. I plan to accept the deal. It's definitely a lighter sentence than what I'll be facing if I try and fight the charges and lose.
My parents don't want me to plead out. They want me to fight the charges, despite knowing I'm guilty. But as I said, I don't want to risk being in jail f...
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My grandma blamed me for ruining her relationship with my mom
Posted Monday September 21 2020, 8:28 pm
In our country, families are very close knit and live in the same house. I wasn’t expecting to get scolded by my grandma for telling my mom that she let my cousin(who has stolen a lot of money and stuff from us and ran away multiple times) sleep in our living room while she was guarding me for the night while my mom was away from town. I just agreed with her, because I don’t have much of a choice either and my cousin might have been swarmed by mosquitoes in his bedroom. But I went to my mom’s bedroom because I really didn’t feel safe with him. She specifically told me that because of what i told my mom.things have changed for my grandma and my mom. I think you guys can tell that I dislike this cousin of mine. In between of the pand...
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Strained Relationship with In-Laws
Posted Sunday September 20 2020, 1:59 pm
My in-laws and I don't have a very good relationship. When I first got married, I was working full-time and my husband's parents were very kind and appreciative of me. However, a few months later I got pregnant with our first child. My husband and I discussed it and we agreed that I would be a stay-at-home mom. I stopped working, but then just two months after having my baby my mom-in-law started asking when am I going back to work? I was surprised that she was asking me this so soon, but I just blew it off. But then my husband's father started asking the same question, and then his sister got involved. They even said they wanted to have a talk with me and all three of them ganged up on me at the same time. Of course I pushed back because I...
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elderly mother babys adult son
Posted Friday September 18 2020, 8:15 pm
I will try to make this short...
My brother (52) still lives at home with my mother. (79) Obviously he has mental issues, but, yes has been able to hold down a job, (for over 30 years until the company closed down) drive, (he has a CDL) as well as many other things. He cant, however, do laundry, change a lightbulb, or even pick his mother up from the hospital when she was discharged...the reason? "He's too nervous" my mother says. He obviously has mental issues that were never formally diagnosed. She covers for him all the time and babys him to a ridiculous extent...Anyway, bottom line is that when she dies, he will have no where to live. I have tried MANY times to discuss this with her, to have a plan, but she blows m...
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Question about my mom.
Posted Saturday August 22 2020, 8:15 pm
Okay, so my mom blames me for every mess she finds in the kitchen whether I was in the kitchen that day or not she still blames it on me. Today she started bitching at me because the freezer was dirty (apparently from a mess I made)Even though I haven't opened the freezer in days and we've had people in an out of this house for two weeks. I'm just sick of hearing how every mess she finds is my fault. And when I try to tell her it isn't me she doesn't listen. Sometimes I just go along with it and accept responsibility even though I know it wasn't me because that's easier than trying to convince her otherwise. So how can I get her to stop blaming me for every mess she finds?
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Inconsiderate sister
Posted Tuesday August 18 2020, 7:51 pm
My 18 Year old sister at this point wants me to hate her she constantly leaves the house everyday to do stupid shit, she says she’s going to the store but is really going to other people’s house to smoke or other stuff that idk. She walks out with a mask but takes it off once she’s outside, she doesn’t believe that corona virus is real and is being an ignorant fuck, me and my mom have to see her ass still since her college campus isn’t letting anyone on yet until a few months, I was counting down to this month in hopes that she could leave but now that she can’t I have trouble bearing with her being around me, especially with her putting our health at stake everyday over idiotic shit. What is there to do about this? She’s not ...
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Daughter is going to military prison for drug charges. Is it ok to not feel
Posted Thursday August 6 2020, 3:16 am
Feel sympathy?
My 19 year old daughter will be spending 13 months in a military prison for drug charges
I am unable to have much sympathy for her about this because she broke the rules even though I never told her it was OK to participate in illegal activities, embarrassed herself and has to go to prison and will likely get dishonorably discharged. . Not to mention set a bad example for her younger sibling. Instead of feeling sad for her I’m thinking I know where she is and maybe being incarcerated will teacher her a lesson
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My mother favors my brother
Posted Monday June 8 2020, 8:55 am
I'm a 17 year old girl, and as long as I can remember my mother has been giving special treatment to my youngest brother. While my sister and my brother and I were disciplined regularly and given chores and strict guidelines, he was allowed to do as he pleased and often received gifts and was allowed to stay up later. Even now that we're all teenagers, he still has no chores, speaks to my mother however he pleases (and often with shocking rudeness that would earn anyone else a slap to the face and a week's grounding), and has no curfew for his electronics while the rest of us have to put away our phones at 6 o clock. Truthfully, I don't know what to do about the situation, if there's anything I even can do. Maybe it has to do with the rest ...
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Strain between parents relationship and part of it has to do with me
Posted Sunday June 7 2020, 4:24 am
I’m gonna try and keep this as short as possible but basically my parents have always had a rocky marriage with multiple explosive arguments they’ve refused to get a divorce and it’s been about 25 years of marriage together. My mom has her specific issues with my dad and my dad has specific issues with my mom. I love both my parents but i despise their relationship and how I’ve grown up for the past 20 years of my life watching them fight over less than real problems. My mom brought up with me that she hates how my dad says she has a ton of disagreements with her siblings but she really only doesn’t talk to one of her brothers because her brother’s son abused me. My father has no idea that this has occurred and is friendly with...
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How do I get my dad to love me?
Posted Saturday June 6 2020, 11:20 am
I am sixteen years old. my dad has never ever told me he loves me. He is always avoiding me, or when he doesn't it is only because he wants something.
how do I get him to love me? is it my fault that he doesn't?
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Family fued
Posted Monday June 1 2020, 4:04 am
Im in love with my mother and she is in love with me. We have had a relationship for 4 months now but i keep having doubt. What do you think?
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How do I get my annoying mom to back off?
Posted Thursday May 28 2020, 11:28 pm
Like the question states, I can't get my mom to back off. I still live and home and will probably be here until I graduate college (2 yrs) because of Covid-19. My mom always wants me to do stuff for her. Because I'm the most capable person in my home (lazy brother and equally lazy, freeloading cousins), I feel like she exploits me. She's wearing me out. I don't have a waking moment where this woman just lets me live. If you don't willingly do what she wants, she subtly makes you feel bad. I helped my brother with his schoolwork since the pandemic on top of my workload, I do chores, I help her out, but that's not enough for her. I could go on and on here. It's so bad, that I'm reluctantly trying to get into med school or anything else post-g...
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I am in a secret relationship that my mom doesnt want me to be in
Posted Tuesday May 26 2020, 8:17 am
So, Ive been with this guy for a few months now. He’s great, and I love him so much. He is my first boyfriend. Last year ,my mom found out about this, and we broke up for a while. Then we eventually got back together because we were in the same school. Im now back in keeping things private and suggested that we should just have an open relationship so that we can just figure out if this is really for us or not. The problem is, I don’t wanna hurt my mom anymore. She was really mad and hurt about us and she even thought about shutting me out from the family. I don’t want anyone to be in that mess anymore. I’m at a point where i regret everything. I should’ve just let him go long ago, but I didn’t. I was really invested in him and ...
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Verbally abusive narcissist father?
Posted Monday May 25 2020, 2:57 pm
For year’s iv’e thought my father has been verbally abusive to me our relationship has never been the way a father daughter’s relationship should be recently iv’e thought he is a narcissist father in public in front of people he act’s like the perfect father everything is fine but behind closed door’s that isn’t the case he has told me “I’ve got no brain” “I’m going to end up on the unemployment line and on food stamp’s” “He doesn’t care if he hurt’s me as long as he get’s his point across” “I’m losing at life” He like’s to put the blame on me make thing’s seem like they’re always my fault he rarely admit’s when he’s wrong he has also lifted up the table while i was eating dinner and got...
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Anger Issues?
Posted Friday May 22 2020, 11:39 am
I'm not sure if it's exactly "anger" or my mother just hates me. She constantly calls me "useless" "lazy" "good for nothing" and tells me I'll probably be both homeless and jobless when I grow up. And it's not like I'm a horrible kid, I get pretty much straight A's in school and she seems proud when I tell my parents about it? But it's quickly forgotten. I'm not the only one in the family she treats like that, but my brother is the baby and the favorite of the family and rarely gets that treatment, and my dad is... to put it nicely, on her side, and to put it bluntly, pretty much a pushover. My mother constantly accuses me of throwing attitude at her even when I'm clearly not (one time she screamed at...
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Feeling guilty. Do I have the right to?
Posted Friday May 15 2020, 12:44 am
26/f
Almost two years ago, I was living with a guy that I was no longer in love with. Unfortunately, because I left a high paying job because I disliked it and found a job that I enjoyed. The downside was that it was lower pay than I have gotten paid. My thought process was that I had to take a few steps back to take a step closer to where I wanted to be. This was true, because even though my job doesn't pay me as much as I would've wanted, I get a free education and am now earning a Masters in a tech field.
Unfortunately because of the low pay, I stayed in an unhappy relationship. At some point, I had to get out and started researching apartments that were within my price range. A lot of the places that were o...
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Caught slipping
Posted Thursday May 7 2020, 11:25 pm
So I wanted a phone last year for my birthday but I didn’t get it. And every opportunity after that I couldn’t so I went up a few models( iPhone 6 to iPhone 8 Plus) when I shared my desire for the phone with my sister she shut down the idea of getting that phone, saying ``our mom wouldn’t get it because it was expensive, and it wouldn’t be right to get a phone that was more better than what she has(iPhone 6)". So her birthday was last month and she wanted to upgrade to a iPhone 7 but my mom couldn’t do it at the moment, and plus we discovered a couple of things that proved her unworthy of it anyway( trust me it was bad😤). But right after she did get enough money to buy me the iPhone 8 Plus, and so I ordered it, it arrived ...
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will my kids be unlucky in love if my family generally are unlucky in love?
Posted Friday May 1 2020, 7:24 am
I am a 53 year old guy who just went through his 5th divorce earlier this year. Now, I haven't been the one to file for divorce on a single one of these occasions- it's always been them. I have Asperger's syndrome, which I don't think any of my wives really understood about. They knew I had it but didn't really know what it was. I'm thinking this is perhaps connected to these divorces? My first wife left me after those last few years of just not really interacting. That divorce hurt more than any of them, I was heartbroken by it- I thought we'd be together forever, especially since we'd had two kids. Then I met my second wife who I also had a child with- she was generally quite bossy towards me towards the end of our marriage (the first wif...
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Am I wrong?
Posted Wednesday April 29 2020, 8:15 am
So basically. I just found out my father has malignant melanoma. It's a skin cancer. I have a sister and she tends to get EXTREMELY nervous for these kind of situation so I understand her feelings. She proceeds to text me today telling me she felt like crap about the situation and to top it off she was mad at me for calling her ungrateful to her child's father. They have been broken up for some time but she still seems to be attached and gets jealous every time he seems to try to move on. I have told her over and over that she is an ungrateful bitch because she truly is. The point is, she only knew about it because she went through my phone while I was sleeping. I honestly get where she is coming from but I feel like she was wrong for going through my phone.
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my contradicting dad
Posted Monday April 27 2020, 9:52 am
Whenever I am upset with my dad he says i can't just leave the conversation and i have to finish it . I have learned this. But whenever he is upset with me, like I am asking him a question about why he did something that he doesn't like to talk about. He will just cut me off and say "i have enough or your bitichin' " and keep telling me he's done until all i can do is leave and it never gets resolved. what should I do? I don't know how to make him see he is being contradicting and arrogant.
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