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I need advice about my family.
Posted Wednesday August 14 2019, 5:33 pm
I really don’t know what to do. My family is forcing me to play the piano and I don’t want to anymore. I’ve been playing it for 10 years now, and I’m getting fed up with it. If I ever talk to them about it, they yell at me and guilt trip me and I feel like I don’t know what to do! Please help.
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My older sister has lost the will to live.
Posted Friday August 2 2019, 8:57 pm
This morning around 7 AM my older sister was apprehended for driving under the influence of alcohol. She barely turned twenty-four at the end of July. For the past few months, she barely seems to be getting any better. She is prescribed Adderall and abuses it regularly. I am truly perplexed by the level in which her psychological illness has affected her. Unfortunately, when it comes down to the truth, she is the typical addict. Borrowing, stealing, lying, etc. As her younger brother, I passionately believe I possess the potential to assist her in strengthening her own naturally acquired powers. I once struggled with strikingly similar issues. I see much of myself in her. People, in general, lack the ability to become the best version of th...
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Guilty (?) crush.
Posted Thursday August 1 2019, 1:53 am
I have a crush on my second cousin (my mom’s cousin). Now I’m not planning to act on it or anything; she’s around 16-20 years older than me so most definitely won’t return these feelings (not that I’m expecting her to), however we seem to get along quite well- she’s really nice, and doesn’t have an SO. Maybe that’s part of the reason why this attraction started? It’s only been happening since this year.
However, I only see her around 2-4 times a year, seeing as she lives in Ireland, making this crush more difficult to handle. On one hand, next time I see her, my crush may have disappeared and have just been a phase, but on the other, what if it gets stronger next time I see her and the rest of the family who...
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My ex boyfriend
Posted Sunday July 28 2019, 9:29 pm
Hi. Guys I am looking for some advice and help. My ex boyfriend and me where together for a long time we have a daughter together and his family didn't want to know her until I got DNA test then the accepted her into there family when she was 6
So it cause alot hurt and bad feeling between us then he meet someone ended getting married to her she dosen't even want to talk to me even doe I never ever meet her or spoke to the girl. I love him alot and still care about but hate they way things are between us and like to see if I could change that and now with him moving to the usa I want to know what should I do should have a talk with him sort things out clear the air? or should I just leave it as it is?
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How do I tell my mom she's not walking me down the aisle?
Posted Tuesday July 16 2019, 12:47 am
My father has never been around. Ever. So technically speaking, my mother would walk me down the aisle. Well I don't want her to. I want my "adoptive" mom to. And why I say adoptive in quotes is because she's not actually. She's my best friend, but I consider her my mom because that's what I see her as. It started when I was on the brink of death in 7th grade. (I was suicidal). I was completely alone with literally nothing to live for, but this girl in my English class, who I didn't even know. She saw and helped me. We've been together since and I love her more than anything because she is the very reason I'm here today, and I'd do anything for her. My actual mom emotionally neglected me and has failed to show me love, support, an...
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My mom let someone move in with us !
Posted Thursday July 11 2019, 3:44 pm
I am a 30 year old female and I still live at home with my mom , but I am very concerned because my mom is good hearted and willing to do anything for anybody that she can. I am vey concerned because my mom has now decided to take in a homeless man and let him live with us until he gets on his feet . my main concern is she doesn't know him. She just talks to him when she sees him hanging around Wal-Mart with his dog. Another concern of mine is that my 16 year old nephew and 18 year old niece that she has legal custody of lives in the house hold and I am concerned for their safety being that she does not know him . my mom seems to think I have been watching to many murder mysteries on tv. Am I over reacting or do I have valid concerns?
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Mom complains about me to my sister is it right or wrong?
Posted Saturday July 6 2019, 10:47 pm
My sister and I were talking about our mom, My sister saying mom always agrees with her when we are in arguement if even if shes wrong and says that our mom gives her the benefit of the doubt. and complains about me to my sister and it makes my sister feel like shes in the middle between my mom and I relationship...I'm conflicted about this infomation my sister has told me...I'm starting to grow a bit of resentment towards my mother I feel absolutly horrible for feeling this way... I want to talk to her but then she will say that I always find the bad in her and her actions are justified. that I need to think postive. She is never accountable for her actions... very set in her ways. I getting to a point where I feel a gut feeling of what s...
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An abusive and controlling father? What should I do?
Posted Friday June 28 2019, 1:57 pm
I am an only child, age 16, and I have a mother and a father. My mother is amazing but my father… is something else.
He makes my mother do anything he wants and controlls her a lot. He does the same to me. He has for years.
He wants me to be the smartest person in all my classes and wants me to do pretty much anything perfectly. If I don't or get something less than an A+ on any of my classes (whice obviously would have happened a lot) he punishes me in ways I don't want to explain.
I'm lucky that he allows me to have friends and some of them knows about this but I made them swear not to tell anyone else or do anything about it. They stay by my side and I love them for that but is it wrong not ...
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Feeling Used and Discarded by Daughter. What Should I do?
Posted Thursday June 27 2019, 6:42 pm
I am a 50 year old Mom and I have a 27 year old Daughter. She lives with her abusive and controlling boyfriend. I have noticed a pattern and I do not like it. During Christmas and birthdays she keeps in touch and is very warm, caring and friendly. Other times she does not text and does not want to be bothered. She can be rude. After 3 years of building this pattern I am tired of feeling used and discarded. Every Summer when there are no gifts involved she discards me and wants nothing to do with me. I am tempted to tell her that I no longer wish to exchange any Birthday or Christmas gifts with her and see if she quits visiting and all communication. This way I no if my suspicions are correct that she only uses me for Gifts. Problem is my Mo...
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Am I in the wrong for doing this to my mom?
Posted Thursday June 20 2019, 8:49 pm
My mom has been trying to help me get a volunteer position at her health job but I have been waiting for almost a month for them to communicate with me. Today they finally did only to tell me that they lost my immunization form. I just thought that was so unprofessional and it puts me at an inconvenience because I would have to pay my doctor to fill out another one for me. Why should I have to pay when it is not my fault? I told my mom I don't want to volunteer anymore and I feel bad for putting her in this position but this just shows me what kind of people they are if they can easily lose important documents and have me waiting almost a month with no updates if I got accepted or not.
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OMG RENT WAS $90 A MONTH IN THE 1970'S WTF HAPPENED DURING THE YEARS?
Posted Saturday June 15 2019, 4:41 pm
its crazzi how much the economy has changed and how everything is so overpriced nowadays and you don't even get what you paid for...smdh
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My mom is a lifetime movie
Posted Tuesday June 4 2019, 4:13 pm
28/f. I no longer wish to have a relationship with my mother. We have an extremely toxic relationship. Although I'm 28, she treats me as though I'm a 16 year old drug addict. She shows up at my house, unannounced. She inserts herself into my love life. It's gotten to a point where I haven't even introduced her to my significant other, despite us being serious. At this point, we're discussing marriage, children's names, and I've introduced him to the rest of my family. But, because of her behavior, I don't want her near him. Whenever I travel, she blows up my friend's phones. People are afraid of her. I use to feel like I had to look at my dad and my grandparents as "heroes" because they would be the ones to "save" me fro...
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I don't understand my family (my dad especially)
Posted Thursday May 30 2019, 10:22 pm
Before I start, i like to keep my information as private as possible so I'll specify now that I'm from Asia and have never been anywhere near Europe or America.
My family, except my dad, shifted to another country. My dad stayed for work and my sister recently went to live with him temporarily because of her exams. To be honest we never really lived with my dad he had work in another city and would only come by on weekends so there is not much difference. My sister's exams are over so i asked her why she decided to stay longer and she told me to mind my own business. That really hurt me because I miss her, i tried to ignore it because maybe she is stressed and we haven't really adjusted to this new country yet. My dad keeps secrets...
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How do I say I don't want you people in my house, without saying that?
Posted Wednesday May 29 2019, 11:27 am
I have a question about a family event.
My son is graduating from high school, so I feel compelled to ask my family to attend. However, we are not close, and I have a horrible relationship with my sister who is a bully and is horribly judgmental.
That being said, I am having his party at a park,so I don't have to have my family in my home. I have pets, which they don't approve of, and I don't want to hear it.
My question is, how do I say I don't want you people in my house, without saying that? Or should I just say that?
This is causing me a lot of unnecessary stress, and I am unsure how to proceed. Any advice would be so appreciated!
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My dad won't let me do as much as my brother
Posted Saturday April 27 2019, 2:45 pm
So my dad won't let me do as much as my younger brother because, sadly I was born a girl. He thinks I'm going to get raped, or kiss a boy, so I can't hang out with boys. My brother can hang out with girls though,and he doesn't have a dress code or has to stay home for baseball games or anything like that. My dad is also thinking about homeschooling me! I need help please 😥😥
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Parents won’t let me save money?
Posted Thursday April 25 2019, 11:43 pm
Any tips on what to do about parents that don’t let me save money? Basically when I first got a job my bank account was joint with my mom, it was joint because she told me it’ll be easier for her to send money to my school. Little did I know it was a tactic, whenever I got paid from my job I didn’t know how much I was making because my mom had my debit card she said she wanted us to save money, so I thought. So basically as I was making the money my mom was taking out the money to pay the bills ultimately I finally caught her when we went to the bank together and the bank teller gave me the receipt and my balance was less than 100 dollars when I’ve been working for 30 hours a week. Anyways long story short I got my debit card from h...
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IRS mail drama help me plese. thanks
Posted Monday April 22 2019, 2:22 pm
My sister uses my address for irs mailings without my permission, how can i get that changed as I do not have ss numbers and signatures for the 8822 IRS change of address form?
she doesn't live at my house nor should she be using my address for her personal documents and she doesn't live at my house nor did she ask me permission...I don't want to have anything to do with the IRS when it has nothing to do with me.....ive confronted her and she wont fill out the proper form .....I would need her and her spouses ss numbers and signatures...and they wont sign anything nor provide the ss numbers....
she came and picked up the letters but I still don't want the continuous mail coming to my home and she nor ...
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I need help being confident and not unhappy all the time.
Posted Saturday April 20 2019, 7:56 pm
I recently came out to my parents as a lesbian and they didn't like it. Ever since then, they alienate me by telling me I should get a boyfriend and whenever I mention friends that are boys, they immediately make it about a relationship. Also, I do not feel comfortable in my own body. I hate how I look. I want my hair to be extremely short but I'm not allowed to cut it like that or else my parents are scared that I'll be seen as a "boy". Which I really don't mind. I hate my hair. I also can't be around friends without feeling sad or feeling like they hate me and stuff. It's weird. I want to get over that so badly, but no matter how hard I try, nothing works.
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How do I get my mom to leave me alone?
Posted Tuesday April 16 2019, 7:35 pm
So I'm gonna make this quick. My mom keeps trying to force me to go to church. For reference, I'm 19 years old, in college, and live at home. I've been away from church from the past month mainly because I like just being home on the weekends, and catching up on homework, studying, sleep, or TV. My mom is trying to force me to go again. The only sold reason she can give me is that, people at church keep asking about me, and she can't keep lying for me. I never told her to. Me resting at home is the truth. I couldn't give two shits about people at church, they don't pay my tuition bill and neither does my mom. So as far as I'm concerned, I should be the one calling the shots. How do I get my mom to just leave me be? Thanks.
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Going On A Trip
Posted Friday April 12 2019, 12:43 am
Hello. My name is Brian Hardy. I am twenty-six years old and I live in Danville, California. I am autistic and I suffer from anxiety. My anxiety is so high that I often annoy my parents. I would like to please discuss my anxiety and my worries in this letter. My parents are going to Wichita and Las Vegas in late April/early May to attend my cousin’s wedding. I cannot attend the wedding because I have class and I am in the process of graduating from community college. However, I am feeling anxious because I am going to be home alone for five days. Despite thIs, I am still looking forward to a weekend without my parents. Because I am autistic and suffer from anxiety issues, I easily become overwhelmed with anxiety. Now every moment of my li...
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