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Family issues - as an only child
Posted Thursday November 8 2018, 2:49 am
Hello readers.
I'm currently 23 y/o, a 3rd year Med student. Honestly I have no clue what to do, and how to be optimistic any longer.
I am an only child, but my parents have always been fighting very frequently and my mother has already accidentally fainted twice due to her hypertension especially during the fight. It has already been years and years ever since they started to fight. Small arguments are okay, I'm grateful enough if there is no shouting or yelling or loud curse words. I feel hopeless. They've been married for 25 years now, but till now I still question how the hell did they get married seeing how bad their relationship is.
I can never understand when my peers are eager to go home when ...
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What to do with overprotective parents?
Posted Thursday October 25 2018, 3:59 pm
My parents are controlling everything in my life and I’m getting sick of it. I’m going to be 20 in two months and I haven’t really experienced anything in my life yet because my parents rarely let me go out. None of my friends really invite me out anymore cause they know my parents won’t let me go. It’s not really my dad it’s mostly my mom who acts so protective. My dad would say “you’re an adult do whatever you want” but when the clock strikes 10pm he wants me home as soon as possible, so I can’t even go clubbing with my friends (the legal age to drink is 19 here). Today was the last straw when I told my mom I was thinking of going on this school trip where I’ll be gone for a month to a city that’s 5 hours away. My ...
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Should I humor my little sister? Or am I crazy for considering this?
Posted Wednesday October 17 2018, 9:08 pm
My little sister is 10. I’m 15 (and a girl too). Both of us have really gotten into the original Full House series after watching Fuller House on Netflix. Recently we watched that one episode where DJ and Stephanie accidentally get handcuffed together and stuck that way because they don’t have the key.
Our mom was watching the episode with us and after it was over she told us about how her mom actually handcuffed her and her sister together once when they were kids to get them to stop fighting. We both got a laugh out of that. My little sister then said she wants to know what it’d be like to be stuck together like that. She said we ought to get a pair of handcuffs and spend a day cuffed together.
I admit ...
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Child Support
Posted Wednesday October 17 2018, 10:28 am
Hello, this is in regards to what should I do and is this even my place to say.
My boyfriend is 32 and I am 26. We met almost 3 years ago and knew we both have kids from previous relationships. My boyfriend is very involved in his child's life but it was limited due to him living 45 minutes away from her mother's home. He is paying $650 a month for one child.
Well my boyfriend and I bought a home that is approximately 15 minutes away from the mother of his child, he is now more involved in his child's life. The only thing is that the child, per court order, does not stay the night at our home during school nights. (The child is 7).
Now my boyfriend and I had a baby together (he was born in June a...
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feeling pressure to maintain my mom
Posted Saturday October 13 2018, 12:09 pm
I'm 27 and my mom is 60. growing up, we lived with my grandparents. My mom didn't pay for anything and lived under their roof for free. Two years ago, I moved into my own house. She begged me to let her move in and I did. Now, I'm really ready to fly. Like, I'm ready to move forward with my life and leave town. I don't even think I can stay another year here for many, many reasons.
The thing is, she wants to retire. But, she will not make enough in her retirement to live on her own. She was out of work for 25 years. Although she was married to my dad for 8 years, this did not qualify her to get anything from his retirement. She is pressuring me into buying her a granny-pod (which is basically like a tiny house), so that she c...
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I Miss My Uncle
Posted Friday October 5 2018, 2:45 am
Please forgive me if this ends up being a bit long, but there's quite a bit I'd like to get off of my chest if no one minds. I have a great uncle (Grandma's brother) with whom I used to be extremely close. His name is David and the two of us shared a very special relationship at one time.
My Uncle David and my grandmother were always each other's best friend when they were young. I shared a very close relationship with my grandmother as well while she was alive She and my grandfather lived within walking distance of my mother, my sister, and myself when I was young and we saw them on a daily basis. I used to love when Uncle David would come for a visit and I would get a chance to sit and listen to him and my grandmother tell...
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Seeing A Play on My Birthday
Posted Sunday September 30 2018, 9:16 pm
I am planning on seeing a play on my birthday. I am thinking about seeing the Witches at the Los Altos Stage Company on my birthday. It is an adaption of a Roald Dahl novel and in 1990, the novel was adapted into a film starring Anjelica Huston and Rowan Atkinson. I have read some of Roald Dahl’s other works such as the BFG, James and the Giant Peach, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory and its sequel Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator, Matilda, and Danny: Champion of the World. However, the Witches is more aimed towards children and my next birthday is going to be my twenty-sixth birthday, so I may be a little too old to be seeing this play. The thing is that the play is going to be in Los Altos, California and I live in Danville, which ...
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mom likes little sister better then me
Posted Wednesday September 26 2018, 10:39 pm
I'm 14 and my sister is 10. Since my sister was about 4 years old my mom started not being nice to me but super nice to my sister ( offers to help my sister with school work, does her chores for her and never blames her for anything ) in fact if my sister ever does bad stuff ( which she does all the time knowing that she won't get in trouble ) my mom screams at me saying my sister used to be sweet and i made her a brat but then goes back to my sister like everything is fine. also we are both homeschooled and my mom will not help me with my school work i have to try and do all of it by myself i also cook all the meals for my family, clean and do all the laundry anyway i just don't think it's ok the way she treats me. sorry this is so long.
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How do I decline Christmas invitation with DIL's large clan?
Posted Tuesday September 25 2018, 6:54 pm
My son & DIL (daughter in law) are hosting Xmas this year. I adore them both and want to see my grandkids BUT my DIL has invited her entire family (aunts, uncles, cousins etc). We get along with her parents but the rest of her family is odd; they barely speak to each other much less to us. It has happened on multiple holidays & we just feel out of place & are over it. Question: How do we bow out of these large gatherings filled with her large extended family and avoid hurting their feelings?
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Family problem
Posted Saturday September 22 2018, 9:54 pm
Should I stay? I feel like I don't really belong in the home I currently live in. I feel irrelevant and that they don't really care for me. My mother said I could live with her family instead. Should I go?
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My mom is controlling
Posted Sunday September 16 2018, 3:45 pm
My mom constantly tries to control every aspect of my life. I'm a 13 year old girl and I'll just tell you about a few instances I have gotten into. Today my mom told me in an angry tone to wash my sheets when I only just washed them last week. I have never seen my twin brother or my mom wash their sheets yet they expect me to do mine every week. Another time I was out with my friends and I get an angry call saying that my mom couldn't find the remote and she claimed that I lost it, but I couldn't have lost it because I never use the remote, yet she is 100% sure that I am the one that lost it and she threatened that if I don't tell her where it is that she would come and get me and take away my phone for the next week. She also has a lock on...
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I'm graduating high school but I dont know what to do because of my parents
Posted Monday August 20 2018, 12:37 am
So this is my last year of high school and I'm not scared for it but I am scared of becoming an adult. I have super controlling parents that are really strict. I do hate my life a lot and I know a lot of people think that's just so typical of teenagers but I don't know. A lot of times I don't feel loved but alone. My dad acts like he loves me but he gets mad over the little things and yells. I feel emotionally abused and I don't know what to do. I want to enjoy my life when I am 18 but I don't have my papers such as social security, birth certificate,etc. I am scared to ask for the papers, and I know they won't let me move out because they're religious. I used to joke about it to my mom and she got so mad and told me never to joke about stu...
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HOME CARE HEALTH AIDE????
Posted Wednesday August 1 2018, 11:06 pm
I'M INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CALIFORNIA HOME CARE AIDE AND I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW CAN I WORK FOR TWO FAMILY MEMBERS ONCE I COMPLETE MY TRAINING ( I.E. GRANDMOTHER, AUNT)OR AM I ALLOWED TO HELP ONE FAMILY MEMBER ONLY I.E. AUNT? IM BEING PAID BY THE AGENCY
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Having Issues with My Father
Posted Monday July 16 2018, 12:22 am
I am having some issues with my father. For example, I am planning a trip to Monterey and San Jose for my next birthday. While I am there, I plan to visit the Monterey Bay Aquarium and the Rosicrucian Egyptian Museum. For example, for one of our disagreements, I would like to have lunch at a nearby sit-down restaurant in either Monterey, Pacific Grove, Pebble Beach, or Carmel. For example, I suggested having lunch at Roy’s in Pebble Beach on my birthday, but my father is against the idea. I think it is because a sit-down restaurant will slow us down. Plus Roy’s can have slow service, but I have eaten there twice and both visits went fairly quickly. My father would prefer to have lunch at the Monterey Bay Aquarium. I have had some negati...
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Feeling bad for leaving my dad out...
Posted Wednesday July 11 2018, 8:52 pm
A bit of backstory, me and my dad were never close. He has anger issues, and he throws tantrums quite a bit. I'm much closer with my mother, and tend to spend the most time with her. Since we moved about a month and a half ago, I've been avoiding him slightly, choosing to do things with only me and my mother, and not mentioning him to any of my friends. He'll cuss in inappropriate places, such as a school meeting, when he got mad and told me I need to get the fucking paper, even though I already had one. Or when he cussed out a fast food employee for the restraunt being closed. He constantly interups me , and has broken things without apologizing for anything. He also says some pretty racist stuff from time to time. Point is, I don't like t...
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Tips on gaining confidence?
Posted Monday July 2 2018, 12:46 pm
I know I’ve asked questions similar to this before but now I’m actually ready to listen. I’m almost 20 years old and I still have the same low-self esteem I’ve had all my life and I want to change that. I feel like an embarrassing older sister for my sister (who is turning 18 next month). She’s more outgoing than I am, has more friends and can even talk to guys. I’m more reserved, I barely have any friends and at my age I still can’t even talk to guys I find attractive. If you’ve seen the movie 10 things I hate about you, she’s basically the younger sister and I’m the older one when it comes to personality. I think my elementary and high school experience shaped who I am today which isn’t good. I was surrounded by supe...
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I suspect my youngest took the blame for her sister.
Posted Monday July 2 2018, 8:05 am
Months back, my two daughters (ages 16 and 18) attended a party together. Unbeknownst to me, there was no adult supervision and alcohol was served. Both of them ended up drinking.
Now my youngest, allegedly, was behind the wheel during the drive home and the car ended up in the drainage ditch just in front of our house. Her sister wasn't wearing her seat belt and went face first into the dash and got her bell rung pretty good. My husband and I weren't home at the time. A neighbor saw the accident and phoned it in and my youngest ended up getting arrested.
Naturally, they were both grounded following this incident. For two whole months.
On Friday, my youngest was in juvenile court to receive he...
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Should I have a baby?
Posted Tuesday June 26 2018, 6:42 am
Hi.. I'm 19, my bf is 28 and we are together for a year now. I really want to have a baby. I have a stable job and we live together. We had a pregnancy scare not long ago but we were really excited. When i found out i was not pregnant we were both really disappointed. We talked about having a child and he said he'll support me and that he's happy. My mom won't like it though because she does not like my bf. I really want a baby. What should i do?
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Mom is pissed because of what happened on a weekend trip
Posted Saturday June 23 2018, 11:21 am
Last week, I [F/15] went away with a friend [F/15] and her family to their weekend home. It's out by this beautiful lake in this small, middle-of-nowhere type town.
We arrived around noon and me, my friend, and her little brother spent the first couple hours fishing on the pier in their backyard. We went inside afterward and her brother then showed us a pair of handcuffs his uncle had given him as a birthday present. He'd left them behind the last time they were there. My friend and I took them and decided to handcuff ourselves together as a joke. Only problem was her brother then realized he didn't remember where he'd put the keys.
We searched the house but couldn't find them. Finally he remembered that they w...
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Mom never listens
Posted Saturday June 9 2018, 8:38 pm
14 year old female. For as long as I can remember, my mom has always spoken over and interrupted me. If we're having anything from a heated argument to a simple conversation, she'll listen to like half my sentence then start talking. Once, we were arguing and I was going to say something when she interrupted by screaming at me. When I claimed she interrupted, she replied that she "knew what I was going to say" but she had the completely wrong idea.
Worse than that, if someone asks me a question she'll answer for me whether it's 'what are you doing in school?' Or 'how are you?' Even my dad has pointed this out, and she does this to my two siblings as well. From the moment I was born, she has forced me to do things I ...
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