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I need advice about my family.
I really don’t know what to do. My family is forcing me to play the piano and I don’t want to anymore. I’ve been playing it for 10 years now, and I’m getting fed up with it. If I ever talk to them about it, they yell at me and guilt trip me and I feel like I don’t know what to do! Please help.
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If its been ten years, then my guess is that you are no longer taking lessons? Just practicing to keep up skills? I could be wrong so its hard to advise you. I dont know your age but must assume that you are a minor. Parents will sometimes want a child to learn and practice something other than basic studies, playing an instrument, singing, acting, art, a sport. What should be happening is that parents do this while keeping in mind that what they choose, a child may have no interest in, so they keep going through things. In an ideal world, your parents would know you hate piano and see if they can interest you in drumming instead or a wood wind instrument. If no instrument works out, then they move on to exposing you to other things, unless you have an interest already and share it with them. So, until you become an adult at 18 and can make choices for yourself, try to think hard of what you might have a passing interest in beyond the general studies at school. LEts aay you know you love to cook and watch cooking shows, so you would say to them, that the time you put into piano right now, you would rather put into something that interests you like cooking. You would love to take some cooking classes. I know a neighbor whose daughter took cooking classes already in HS and after that went to a culinary school when she graduated. Then when they try to make you feel guilty, remind them they are paying money to have you do something you don't even like or have any interest in and would likely drop totally once you're an adult. If they want you to get exposure to other things, then they might want to think about their hard earned money going somewhere where it will make a difference in your life. Stay calm and when they argue, tell them you are not going to debate about this, your mind is made up and stand your ground. You must have only a few years until you turn 18. Your parents do the guilt trip thing because they know it is effective with you. So in a way, you trained them without knowing it, to push harder and get you to do what they want.
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