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I need help being confident and not unhappy all the time.
I recently came out to my parents as a lesbian and they didn't like it. Ever since then, they alienate me by telling me I should get a boyfriend and whenever I mention friends that are boys, they immediately make it about a relationship. Also, I do not feel comfortable in my own body. I hate how I look. I want my hair to be extremely short but I'm not allowed to cut it like that or else my parents are scared that I'll be seen as a "boy". Which I really don't mind. I hate my hair. I also can't be around friends without feeling sad or feeling like they hate me and stuff. It's weird. I want to get over that so badly, but no matter how hard I try, nothing works.
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You didn't mention your age. If you are not yet 18, you are not legally considered an adult and since you still live under your parents roof, basically you have to go with what they dictate and any rules they set. Yes, even if a parent is wrong. I know its not fair. If you are 18 or over, you are an adult and can live the life you wish as a lesbian. However, sometimes in telling close friends, family and relatives, their reaction may not be positive. Right now, all I can think of is that you join a LGBT teen support group. I am putting a link to a list of support places by state. Distance might be a problem so you may need to stick with phone calls and on internet chats for help and suggestions.
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As for friends and what you are imagining in your mind, I would dare say that comes from your parents reaction and assuming everyone else will act the same. That is not true. You may feel any friends and aquaintences whom you have previously kept this a secret from, see you as a false person due to not being able to wear your hair and clothes as you wish and feeling before that you couldn't tell them. I am guessing here, and it may not be true. You have to come to grips with being okay just as you are, gay and just starting to come out of the closet. YOu may make some friends with others in the same situation as you and also those who have gone this road before and can give pointers. I can not give the real practical stuff as I have no idea what it is like as I am not gay but accept all the different sexualities and styles of sex.
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