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Am I in the wrong for doing this to my mom?
My mom has been trying to help me get a volunteer position at her health job but I have been waiting for almost a month for them to communicate with me. Today they finally did only to tell me that they lost my immunization form. I just thought that was so unprofessional and it puts me at an inconvenience because I would have to pay my doctor to fill out another one for me. Why should I have to pay when it is not my fault? I told my mom I don't want to volunteer anymore and I feel bad for putting her in this position but this just shows me what kind of people they are if they can easily lose important documents and have me waiting almost a month with no updates if I got accepted or not.
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My experience is that volunteer work is never efficient. When you volunteer, you generally are signing up for an inefficient, "best we can do" kind of situation because no one is paying for efficiency. So take that in stride. It is not personal. The important thing is that you are trying to volunteer your time and expertise to help others. Good for you! Generally, if you haven't heard anything from a place in a week or so, it is best to follow up personally. If you go meet the people, and explain you are interested in helping, you create relationship and trust, and that is better than forms. Without knowing a whole lot more about the situation, my advice is to go into the place and talk with the person live at the desk, explain what happened with an open mind and no blaming spirit. Let them see your willingness to contribute to their cause -- they are likely then to jump in and try to solve the problems. Good luck! Thanks for volunteering :~)
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Wow, and this is for a volunteer position? NOt even a permanent job position? Either it is the incompetence of one individual or it is a reflection of the whole department or whole company. You have a right to come away from this not trusting them now. I am grandma age and of jobs I have held recently, I have seem plenty of incompetence and terrible work ethics, unfairness, and total bumbling idiots being in charge or positions of power. It sickens me. SO I can understand how you feel. I don't know if your Mom would feel badly if you pull out of this. But she needs to realize that this is about your working experience and your future job, not hers. If the company would retaliate against your Mom for you pulling out, then she is working for really terrible people and should look for something better elsewhere. However, she is an adult and can make her own decisions. YOU are an adult as well and should make the best decisions you can too. This does not reflect on your Mom. She isn't even part of the equation other than perhaps asking if they do take volunteers for them to gain experience and then mentioning you might be interested. I understand getting experience somewhere will help in the future with gaining a job. But if this company is to be a referral for your future employer to call, you don't want the employer being told, Julie who? We don't have a file on that person, or yes she worked here but we can't find her file. I know that if I heard something like that, I would wonder about their competency in having trained you for the volunteer position and fear you may not have learned anything helpful from a 'fly by the seat of their pants' company.
You can choose to not respond and say anything at all to them, although that would be the less than perfect way to handle it as an adult. The harder would be to thank them for getting back to you but ask why it took so long to get back to you, so long that they lost your immunization form. Let them say whatever they can and then decide based on their explanation if it was something like only the fault of one person, and knowing you need voluneer work experience, choose to give them a chance. If you decide to give them a chance, bring up them paying your Dr. for a new form as it was their fault for losing it. Next time, take a copy of and hold on to the original and give them the copy. YOu let them have the name of your doctor, and warn the Dr office that they may be calling to pay for the form since they lost the first one. They can give a credit card, or money order or check and deal with your Dr. IF you choose to not give them a chance based on the excuse soundling too flimsy to you, simply tell them you have decided to not do any volunteer work with them. End of story. NO explaining why to get the last word. Hoeever if they ask you why you have changed your mind, only then you can tell them, "I have lost confidence in your company due to your misplacing or losing my immunization card. I wish to work, even though volunteer work, for a really credible company, and right now I have doubts about that. Sorry."
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