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I need to convince my dad...
Posted Tuesday May 29 2018, 7:49 pm
So my 8th grade dance is coming up really soon, and I've been pretty sure that I was going to go. I've been browsing around online for dresses and even went to look at dresses with my friend at the mall the other day. And I reallyyyy want to go, rather, need to go, to maintain the very small social life that I've managed to build for myself. My whole life all my friends have just been backstabbing b*tches who'd ditch me whenever someone more appealing would come along. And then I moved before 5th grade, just making everything an infinity times worse. I was just a social outcast through all of 5th grade. But in 6th grade, I started making friends who actually have LASTED. Now I have a decent amount of friends (like 2 or 3 "bestie...
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I'm Not Wrong, Am I?
Posted Saturday May 19 2018, 2:00 am
I have recently made a decision that I feel is right, but I want to know what you all think of it. It's kind of one of those decisions where it feels like no matter what you do, it's wrong.
I have a rather toxic father who I don't have much of a relationship with. He's rude, ill tempered, intimidating, verbally abusive, selfish, thoughtless, and just downright cold. and you can't call him out on anything because he is completely delusional when it comes to his own image of himself.
Ever since he started having grandchildren, he has wanted to become closer with the family. He wants us all to spend more time together, which I suppose is pretty nice, but there's a problem. I feel bad saying this, but I d...
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Do you think my mom is triggering my anxiety?
Posted Friday May 18 2018, 12:43 pm
I think I have social anxiety and it’s controlling my life I haven’t been to the doctor for it because my mom doesn’t want me to be on medication. Anyways whenever I want to go to social events like parties she’ll say don’t go it’s not safe, so now I don’t like parties and feel anxious when I go to them. whenever I want to go to a concert she says “there’s drugs there, there’s gangs, it’s not safe” and when the whole terrosim things were happening she would say “they bomb public places” so I’ve never been to a concert and then when Ariana grandes concert got bombed it just sealed what she said. If I’m on campus she wants me home as soon as classes are over so I can’t even get involved on campus because club...
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Can depression lead you to commit suicide?
Posted Monday May 14 2018, 2:36 am
My friend is struggling with Depression from a long period of time. She at first used to talk a little bit with us, but now at present, she is not even talking to anyone. She is not even getting out of her room. She eats very little. Sometimes, she even skips meals. Can depression lead you to commit suicide? That day, we friends went to visit her. She was at first not coming out of her room. Then we forced her to come out and sit with us. Even after repeatedly asking she didn't tell us anything. She just uttered was, she wants to Commit suicide. She said she can't live her life anymore. Can someone help her? Somebody told to consult the Voyance Direct From Martine Voyance(http://www.martine-voyance.com). Will she help my friend? Need Suggestions and Help.
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Toxic Family Life
Posted Friday May 11 2018, 9:41 pm
i'm 27/f. Since I was a small child, I have been caring for my mother. She is unable to regulate her emotions. After her divorce, when I was about 2, she only became worse and worse. Although my grandparents have always been a huge help and I lived with them throughout childhood, they never enabled her to take care of herself. She is about to turn 60 and prior to now, she has never paid her own bills. She never had a savings account. She quit working for about 20 years to stay home, and she maxed out every American Express that my grandparents handed her. She owned a home throughout all this time, which she got in the divorce. She had the home rented and received some income from that rental property throughout the time we were living with ...
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Family hates me.
Posted Wednesday May 2 2018, 5:29 pm
I know it's lengthy, but I'd appreciate a read.
14 year old female. I'm not exaggerating or angsting, I'm telling the truth. I'd rather go to school than stay home because I feel well liked by my peers more so than my parents. Kind of sad I feel more welcomed in a group of Highschoolers than my family, but it's reality.
My dad was recently a drug user. He would often dissapear for days and weeks with the car and all our money because he's been doing drugs, and he's left the family in debt because of this. He's gone to rehab twice and if he's done drugs since the second time, I don't know. The first time was crack and heroin, the second time pain killers and my mom acts like that's progress. All throughout my ch...
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F/15 grounded after taking the rap for sister [F/17]
Posted Tuesday April 24 2018, 7:50 am
My older sister and I share a room. She'd been smoking for awhile and I'd been on her ass to quit since cigarettes are unhealthy and disgusting. One day our mom found one of her packs hidden in a drawer in our room. When she asked who they belonged to, I spoke up and claimed they were mine. I got grounded as a result.
I told my sister that since I was taking her punishment for her, she owed me. She told me she'd quit smoking and hasn't since.
I'm now two weeks into a month of being grounded. (Parents don't know I'm on the computer right now) My sister has been cigarette free the entire time. I know guilt tripping her like that was a little manipulative, but if it got her to stop, it's a good thing right? I know...
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How do I approach my parents about this?
Posted Thursday April 19 2018, 12:51 pm
So when I was applying for colleges in 2016. My mom is easily influenced by what her friends say. Her friends were telling her stuff like don’t let your daughter go to a far away school cause my daughter was lonely and depressed when she went away. Or tell your daughter to live at home it’s cheaper blah blah. So my mom basically controlled the types of schools I could apply to the furthest away I could go was a school 2 hours away. And the rest had to be in the area. So I applied to that 2 hour away school and I got in but I also got into all the schools in my area. The problem is I didn’t get into the program I wanted I got into all my backups and the school that was 2 hours away gave me an alternate offer. I would’ve taken it but ...
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Mom with victim mentality
Posted Tuesday March 27 2018, 1:25 pm
My mom has a victim mentality. She never accepts responsibility for her behavior and lies to make it seem like she is the victim and someone else is the perpetrator. Anytime I try to offer help, even if its watching a video or to go see a shrink, she'll say we are criticizing or attacking her. When she is backed into a corner where a normal person would have to admit fault, she'll get angry and storm out, or say "DON'T TELL ME ANYTHING!" Or she'll say "don't yell at me." (even if nobody even raised their voice, let alone yell). Anything and everything we try is met with hostility or she'll play the victim, saying we're attacking her. She uses her victim mentality to manipulate us into doing what she wants or she'll throw...
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I need advice: My mum and dad had me at a young age
Posted Sunday March 4 2018, 4:53 pm
Hi my name is Elena, i'm from England. My mum and dad had me at a young age, they were going to get married but my dad said he was not ready for a family. So he left us. Because he has a disorder called bipolar which my mother didn't know. Now that i'm 14 years old my dad is married and has 2 beautiful girls, and my mum has a partner and a son from him. He lives with us and he respects us and i love him like a second father. But these last days i don't know what has happend to me, I really want my father and mother back togheter and i know that's difficult to happen but i am really hoping. what should i do? should i stop hoping? I know that's a little selfish of me but it's literally all i want.
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My mom never buys me clothing even if I ask
Posted Saturday March 3 2018, 12:52 pm
I’m a female, 13 years old. My mom hasn’t bought me any clothing since I was 10, she just suddenly stopped. I sometimes once in a while ask her for clothing but she would always make up an excuse not to buy it. She buys things for my little brother and she used to always buy clothes and shoes for my sister (she’s an adult now) A few days ago I asked if I could get a new pair of sneakers since the one I had was a hand me down from my sister, but she said no because she doesn’t know where to buy it/ it was too expensive. So I just shrugged it off without saying anything. About 2 days later she asked me if I wanted sneakers because she was going shopping and I said yea sure! She also added that if she couldn’t buy me them then she’...
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My niece keeps invading my privacy!
Posted Wednesday February 28 2018, 10:01 am
My name is Rachel and I am 28 years old and I still live with my mom and share a room with my 16 year old niece. I live with my mom because the courts sat that I am unable to live on my own so my mom is my legal guardian even though I am 28 , so moving out is not an option. My problem is that my when I am changing my niece talks to her friends on her phone with her webcam an when I ask her to turn it off she says no because they can't see me , but it makes me feel really uncomfortable . What should I do ? Help!
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Invalidating "abuse"?
Posted Tuesday February 27 2018, 10:48 am
I've been feeling really off about things that happened in my childhood. I'm trying to talk to my therapist about these things, but as an 18 year old who is basically supposed to be over it by now, I just want to understand if I'm invalidating myself or overreacting.
My dad was an alcoholic until I was 13. He drank a lot, and my parents fought a lot. I remember all the times I cried as a kid (younger than 8) because of the fighting. I remember it being bad, but never ever did he lay a hand on me.
My mom, especially when I was 12, turned cruel. She got angry at me for no reason over small things. I remember 3 times in one week when she would lower her voice and come up to me and say, "I'm not very happy wit...
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Should I move out?
Posted Tuesday February 6 2018, 1:57 pm
Hi 19/F.. I really need as much advice as possible please. I want to move out of my moms house. She still thinks I'm a baby. I am 19 and working and my curvue is still 10 pm although I only go to my bf. I never go anywhere else. We fight a lot because she always tells me what to do. I want to be my own person now. I want to move out in three monthes. Me, my bf, his friend and grandma want to get a place togheter. But my mom will never talk to me again. We are close but she is smothering me. I talked to my grandma about ir but she keeps telling me you are going to hurt your mom. Should I move out? Please help me.
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how to get along with my dad
Posted Thursday February 1 2018, 8:19 pm
Hi! SO I'm a teenager and I always come to my mom to talk about anything because i know shell listan and know what to do and so on. On the other hand, me and my dad not so much. He always yells at me for everything and its very hard to always come and talk to him without him getting mad at me for some stupid reason. He checks my phone every day so he doesn't trust me and calls me a slacker for my grades in math and says i have the worst study habits. I find this very annoying! I want to get along with him but he makes that most of the time super difficult....advice on this for me please!! Thanks
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Having a relationship with my grandmother again
Posted Tuesday January 2 2018, 2:44 pm
This is probably jumbled and random. I'm a little upset, so I apologize. Thank you in advance.
When I was little, my maternal grandmother lived with us a lot. I had a very close relationship with her, as I do with my mother. Her whole life she's had a hard time with personal relationships, and she's moved around and met different men, none of which have been pleasant. Right now she lives with an old man with a farm, and he's a little off his rocker, and doesn't like to go out or be around people, and besides getting anxious sometimes, he isn't that bad of a guy. However, they have this idea that they just cannot leave the farm unless they need something because they might get sick, and of course, they can't afford that. I hav...
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How can reverse the damages?
Posted Sunday December 10 2017, 8:57 pm
I am 18 years and career wise i am a little confuse because i am financially incapable. i dont live alone but i dont really have someone who can pay for my things but that is not my only problem. i have issues and i mean i really do...i think i am bipolar and have a little depression at least that what people say... i have frequent sad feelings that i get when i am actually having fun... that is i will be doing somthing that i like to do but then i feel really really sad but i cannot remember what i just thought about... next i will be telling someone something funny or exiting then in the middle i just dont feel like saying it anymore so i may end it and just dont want to talk to anyone anymore. i believe that my feelings are because of m...
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Should I continue to try and talk my daughter out of this?
Posted Friday December 1 2017, 7:23 am
My 20 year old daughter attends college and the fall semester is obviously winding down. Recently, she informed me that she won't be coming straight home once her classes are done. The reason? She incurred a traffic ticket earlier this year and intends to pay it off with time served in jail.
Apparently when you get a ticket (in the state where she attends school at least), you can go to court and ask the judge if you can serve jail time in lieu of paying the ticket. This is what my daughter intends to do.
I offered to loan her the money, but she declined. She says taking care of this ticket is her responsibility, that she'll only be in for a few days, and afterward she'll be coming straight home.
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Neosporin Ointment on vagina
Posted Saturday November 18 2017, 4:30 am
I caught her putting Neosporin on her vagina a few
Times she doesn't know I know.we haven't had sex for weeks is she cheating
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Finding a dildo in my moms cabinet
Posted Tuesday November 14 2017, 9:18 pm
is It normal for your mom to have a dildo
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