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Q: There is a broken link on http://www.advicenators.com/style.php
The link is under the heading "your column colors", labeled "over here" leading to http://hotwired.lycos.com/webmonkey/reference/color_codes/

Thank you!

The updated URL has been installed in place of the old one.

There is always something like that to fix, so please feel free to point out anything else you find.

Thanks again.

P.S. You said you were good with computer questions, so have a go at this one if you like:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=458101

Q: I think that after someone answers a question of yours, you HAVE to give it a rating, you cant just leave it with no rating.

I think that is a great idea. Now, how do you think it could be enforced?

I have something in the works, which I guarantee will piss off almost everyone, but will solve the problem.

If you have an idea, throw it out there. Better yet, become a level one mod, and discuss it in the mod forums.

Oh, and the best way to start a movement is always at home. I looked through both your accounts, and you haven't rated 9 out of 10 answers you were given. Probably should fix that. ;-)

Q: It doesn't work. If I log out, different pages of the site will show up as one username, and others will have a different one.

Hello again,

Ok, let us cover the basics, as it is working for about 38,000 other people, so there has to be something special about your setup. Hmmm...

Are you using any kind of proxy server? Google WebAccelerator comes to mind... Do you have your browser set to check for current version of pages?

If not, that could be it. Let me know what kind of browser you use, and I will help you figure out how to change that.

You could also try clearing your browser's cache, which should get rid of all those old dead pages from other users.

I am here to help, so get back to me and we will get you fixed up. :-)

DN.

Q: Is there a way to delete your Advicenator's account? Mine (madalyn772) is being strange. Right now it says I'm logged into my friends, (krysta16.) My boyfriend's account (brian656)won't work, whenever he tries to ask a question, it switches back to mine. I'd like to delete my account and then make a new one. Is it possible to delete it?

-Madalyn

Hi there,

I have looked, and there is nothing wrong with your account. If you make another one, it will just do the same thing again.

The answer to this situation is to use the "logout" link on the left hand menu.

Then log in as another user. It is always best never to use any accounts other than your own on your computer. If anyone else using your IP address misbehaves, it looks like you did it. :-(

Please "logout" and that should solve your problems.

If not, please write me again.

DN.

Q: This question needs to be deleted

Hi there,

There is no question number 510.

When viewing a question, look at the location bar... see where it says: ?q=453985

... ? That number is the question number.

If you would fill me in on the actualy question number, I will see what can be done.

Thank you.

Q: hi, well i was just on the site like i usually am and see a question labbelled "friend turning Ageneses me" the grammer in that was tottally apawling. the question was stupis and what the heck is Ageneses? now im froem the USA and havnt heard this word, is it even english?

Hello there,

That user's account was deleted. Users who use the site as a joke are not welcome here.

As for the spelling and grammar... I wouldn't throw stones. I went back and looked at your questions... some are full of chatspeak. "lyk dis dat dem" makes you look as clever as someone who makes up words. I see you are getting better about it. ;-)

Q: Yeah, I remember that question. Pretty bad! I try to answer those kinds of questions in a way that will not give the asker a thrill...in case it is just a pervert asking. I know that there are probably a lot of legit questions that are tacky, but from teens that do need real help. Thanks, again
Bits

Hello there,

Please don't post comments as questions.

If you would like to talk, you can e-mail me at dangernerd@gmail.com

Using questions to comment is the number one reason we ban people. Just in case you missed that part. ;-)

DN.

P.S. After you acknowledge reciept of this via feedback, I will delete this completely to keep your account from looking bad to the other mods.

Q: It is a little frustrating after I have spend time and thought to answer a question, only to see once I submit it, that it won't show up. Why are questions listed to answer, if they have already been deleted? Thanks,
BitsandPieces

Hello Bitsandpieces,

The questions aren't deleted from the server, unless they are really bad.

They will be deleted from the listing on the main page, when people vote the question as being stupid, repetitive, poorly spelled, etc.

If you answer of these, your answer still goes to the question, the asker still sees you advice and the answer still shows up on your column.

Here is an example:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=451164

If you don't think this question should have been rated down... how did you rate it? Are you a moderator? I have no doubt you could be if you wanted to. ;-)

I hope that answers your question. If not, please ask another.

Thank you,

DN.

Q: I was wondering if you will ever put Advicenators on your mobile phone, maning that you would be able to ask a question.

I was just wondering because sometimes I have these very good questions and by the time I get home, I have forgotten them.

Hi there,

There is no way to keep abusers from texting an endless stream of idiocy from their phones, so we will not be doing that, as such.

Here is what I would do: Ring your number and leave yourself a voicemail. When you get home, ask your questions.

Thank you.

Q: Next to the thing under Welcome DearChrissie3737! Or whatever you username is, next to Your Feedback it says (5 new). It says that 5 is how many you need to get an average rating going but it still shows no rating. Please help me! Is there something I'm missing?

Hello there,

You have an average rating:

Average Rating: 4.89

... look on your advice column.

Thanks.

Q: I recently asked a question about teen books with sex in them. You deleted my question because you said I was only 13. This is horrible because:
1. I'm not 13
2. You were very rude to me
3. I actully came here to get advice for me and my very close friend, which this did not help the situation at all because now she's more upset than ever and NEEDS ADVICE.
Let me tell you, I personally will NEVER use this site again.
Here is my question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=448991

Hello there,

As you have promised to no longer use the site, I don't know if I am wasting my time here or not... I hope not.

You should understand that we have a team of moderators here. Blaming me for a rude deletion message is kinda like blaming a CEO for one of the company's people being snotty to you... and then deleting your own question again, makes it so I can't tell who did it.

So you have blamed the CEO and will not tell him who was rude to you. Not very helpful. ;-)

As for your situation, the account states:

"Age:
13"

The BIO states:

"HEY!!! My nam is Ringo. Ok, not my real name but oh well... I'm 13 years old and live in Minneapolis, Minnesota."

Now, how could you expect a moderator to not take action when it looks like a 13 year old girl trying to find juicy sex books?

Why didn't they take: "I am 42/f and..." seriously? Two reasons:

1.) We see it all the time that someone will pretend to be a different age to get answers to sex questions.

2.) Sharing an account is a reason for that account to be deleted, so people don't typically do that.

If you can be calm about this, and drop the accusation of deliberate intent to disturb, you are welcome to stay, and I will put your question through again.

If you wish to continue to violate the rules (account sharing) and blame me for enforcing a rule even when I didn't know who you even were until you wrote this, then I don't think we can work together.

I hope you will be reasonable about this, since we could certainly use someone of your age to help answer the youngsters questions. (After starting your own account, of course.)

Thank you,

DN.

Q: 24 yr. old daughter, mother of 20 mt. old. married. Is needing and asking for large amounts of money. How can I get her attention to realize that I am NOT a bank. thanks

Hi there,

This is the account for asking site realted questions when something is broken.

Please go here:

http://www.advicenators.com/register.php

... and get your free account so that you can ask this to all our members at once. You will get bettter results that way.

Thank you.

Q: What to do when u invite a friend over? My house is so boring.

Hi there,

This account is for people having problems with the site. Please create an account and ask your questions to the pool, so everyone can answer.

DN.

Q: This has been happening for over a week now. I have tried logging, and I would press "Login." The site would say, "You are now logged in," but where the Login area is, it would be blank as if I were not logged in. When I would try and ask a question or something, it would say, "You are not logged in." What is going on? How do I fix this?

Hello there,

Two things:

Make sure you have cookies enabled in your web browser.

Make sure any security package you may be running is not blocking cookies.

Beyond that, I will need some more info.

There is a link after you log in that says: "Click here: Do NOT press your back button..."

Are you clicking that?

If so, that should solve all problems.

Please let me know how you do.

DN.

Q: First of all I want to apologize for contacting you about this subject because I realize that you have a abuse reporting system and have used it. The problem is I think the person who is the perpetrator of the abuse may be a level 2 moderator. What follows is a copy of my complaint with an explanation:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=429404

I first answered this question on May 25th or 26th and was rated a 1 at that time. I was upset and wrote y'all about it and even prepared y'all for my next response which was improper I agree but you can observe it non the less at the top of my first post in capital letters. This was all done w/in a few days in May. I absolutely realized I would not get my rating changed at that time because of my lashing out and took my lumps as a consequence of my anger. I realize it was uncalled for at the time but just had to do it. I had a couple of correspondences w/selectopaque about the whole situation which is posted on my column and I've included the whole post below just under her address. She also responded to a question that I had posted on Advicenators w/regards to this situation. This sociopathic question had been removed by a L2 moderator the first time and I saw that she reposted the question in June just about 30 days after the first one but I refrained from getting back involved w/her (it was when her rating of me didn’t count anymore). I felt I had said everything I needed to the first time and did not re-edit it or respond again in anyway shape or form. I had a feeling that her reposting this question was a way to try to get back at those of us who had responded in a way she didn't like the first time, but it appears no one took the bate, and she had new respondents that she did not rate so I feel that she is doing this simply to bring our ratings back down and this is highly unfair to allow this to happen. If I had responded again I would understand that I should take it, but I did absolutely nothing. I left her alone and feel she is a highly unhappy individual who can't stand to see it when others are doing well. If you look at my column you will see that I always (w/the exception of this one time) do my best to give the answer that will help people and if you look at my first answer to her that is exactly what I did then too. I do not think that she should be able to rate me for a second time just to lower my ratings, which is what she is doing. She had plenty of time back in May to give me a higher rating if that was truly what she wanted to do. This is an obvious ploy to harass me and I think it should be changed for that reason. I will be greatly disappointed in Advicenators if it is not changed since the purpose behind this rating was to harass me. Thank you for your time.

Namaste!

LULABELLE

http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=selectopaque

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=429532

Now the reason that I showed my complaint first is because I thought it would be helpful if you had some background info. After filing my complaint using the proper procedure I went back to my feedback to look again at how it was reposted and I noticed that the feedback was changed by a level 2 moderator. I can't imagine why a level 2 moderator would change an outdated rating that wasn't affecting a person's rating unless they had an agenda. I also want to add one last thing to think about if you take a look at the original post you will see at the bottom that this person originally amended it on May 26th. I only mention this date so that you can see there is other evidence of the original date of this post. I also want to apologize for one other thing. I didn't realize until today that using all capital letters in a post was against the rules and I did use them in my response to her feedback. That will never happen again. I actually had not read your rules until today. I just thought if you were always kind, truthful, and helpful you wouldn't have to worry. Well, I guess not....Thank you for your time and I'd appreciate anything that you can do to resolve this situation. I have a feeling if this is left alone she will keep reposting this just as the 30 days runs out so she can continue to bring down my ratings. I want to nip it in the bud, so to speak and I'm not sure that my protestation will be heard going through the normal channels. Again I thank you for your time.

Namaste!

LULABELLE

Hello,

I answered your abuse report long before this arrived.

Please follow the instructions in my response.

Thank you,

DN.

Q: the site says im logged in and the place on the left where you login is still saying i need to log on...i have done it like 5 times..it wont log me inn

Enable cookies, and everything will be fine.

If not, please provide more details, like what internet service you use, what firewall software or security package your system runs, and whatever else you can tell me.

Thank you.

DN.

Q: On my advice column it won`t let me log in , help!!! what do i do?!?!?!

Make sure you have cookies enabled, and that nothing like your security program or firewall is blocking them.

DN.

Q: when i log in it says that i am logged in but when i go to profile or column settings it says i am not logged in?? why??

Make sure your browser has cookies enabled, and no firewall or anything is blocking them.

That should do it.

Q: whenever i log in,i get logged out automatically immediately afterwards. Is there something wrong with my account or with the website itself?
My username is Lola.
Thanks in advance

Hello there,

Make sure you have cookies enabled.

I was testing the new security program this morning.

I have it turned off now, so you shouldn't have any problems.

When I turn it back on, you will need to have cookies enabled, or you will not be able to use the site.

Good luck.

Q: I received an email that someone needed my advice and there was a notice of a question waiting next to my inbox link. However, when I clicked on my inbox link to retrieve the question, there wasn't one there. Did it just not show up yet....should I keep looking for it?

Hello there,

Please read the site news.

Quite a few users are in your position. When you have this happen, it is because the question was deleted.

Take care.

bio

This advice column is for suggestions, comments, or error reporting about advicenators. If you'd like to suggest a new category, ask me a question. If you'd like to whine, bitch, or complain about advicenators, you may whine, bitch, or complain to me.

Three rules though:
1) Do not ask me for life advice. We have several thousand other members that do that.

2) Do not ask for help, or ask how to do something, or ask about
how something on the site works, unless you've read every word of our help pages and you're sure it's not addressed there.

3) Do not ask me to ban someone or investigate abuse. We have an entire abuse system set up for that.

If you disobey one of these rules, I'll delete your question.

Some guidelines about suggestions:
If you offer a suggestion that I find interesting, I might just ignore your question so it stays in my inbox as a reminder of something to do. Don't be upset that I don't answer you, and don't delete your questions (because then I'll forget!)

If you have three suggestions, please ask three separate questions, that way I can address each one individually. It's a real pain when people ask one question with like twenty different topics in it; I can't keep them straight.