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Just Saw My Best Friend's Reddit Confession – What Should I Do?
My (20M) best friend is a woman (22F). I was browsing Reddit and just came across a thread from her in the advice subreddit. Her thread was about how she's recently started developing romantic feelings for her best male friend... first just seeing the thread I was thinking "interesting, I'm in an identical situation with identical ages of M20 and F22, I'm just the man in the party", and then I saw her username, and yep, that's her.
To be honest, I feel the same way. I love that woman with all my heart, and I'd be open to exploring a romantic relationship with her- I just don't want to risk losing that special friendship. So I've grappled with these romantic feelings too; she's confessing online that she's developing romantic feelings for me- I'm not sure how to address it with her though, because if I tell her I saw her Reddit, it just makes me come across as a stalker (and she's been a victim of horrific stalking in the past so the last thing I want is to give her any flashbacks to that time in her life).
I'm tempted to respond to that thread with "your friend feels the exact same way :)" but I have no idea whether that would be beneficial or not. What do the Advicenators recommend I do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
A very simple question that does not tie you to having seen this post, is to ask "I know we are doing great together as friends, So I am wondering how we might do as 'more than friends'. This type of question when asked sounds like it just came out of the blue, like the thought just crossed your mind and sounds more curious than a confession of love.It puts the other person at ease so that they can answer truthfully without worrying about any complications. If someone asked you that question and you had no romantic feelings for them, you'd be quick to say something about how that would not work since you don't feel that way. If you do reciprocate feelings you'd be sure to act upon it saying you were very open to trying to date romantically. After all, the only difference between a married couple and a a couple who are close friends is the romance part, both have friendship. You don't give up friendship to be romantically involved. In fact my opinion is that since becoming romantic with my husband shortly after we met, that our friendship just keeps growing stronger. Hope this helps you decide what to do.
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