Hello, I'm a 34 year old male. I've been with my girlfriend for 5 dates now, and they have all gone very well. We get along well, and there's never been the awkward silence of dread. However, we have not kissed yet. Is it normal to go this long without one? And should it be the girl to ask for one, or the guy to ask for one after seeing a girl's nonverbal cues? She hasn't made any nonverbal cues yet, btw.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Dragonflymagic answered Wednesday August 2 2023, 8:54 pm: Well, if she's been willing to see you 5 times now, she must like you enough. However, until a person is older and has more life experience, sometimes its hard to know. I don't know what your dates are like, ie handholding, arms around each other or if there is a religious background where one or both are holding back on kissing. So it may not sound very romantic, but sometimes the best thing is to ask. Body language: If she's willing to let you be close to her physically, sitting close and so on, use one of those times to gently whisper, something you are comfortable with such as "I am so overwhelmed by your beauty that I would like to kiss. Is that ok?" Choose words that sound like something you'd say but don't just blurt out, Do you want to kiss me? without a lead up line. That way what you say isn't as creepy. She may be waiting for you to make the first move either way. Once you both are past the first kiss, it should be easier, but if you like, you can let her know if she's wants a kiss, that it is okay with you if she simply kisses you, making the first move, that you are alright with it. [ Dragonflymagic's advice column | Ask Dragonflymagic A Question ]
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