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Maybe he's just not ready for a commitment ..
I've been with him for almost 3 years now, 1st year was amazing 2nd year was full of break-ups and 3rd party was involved, he cheated on me, but somehow we overcome the issue and decided to continue and we are still working on the relationship, sometimes i feel alone, i can't seem to find him all in, anyway we travelled so many countries and finally last month we went to Peru, his hometown where we stayed with his family for 2 weeks and to be honest it was so great.
2 days ago we were out with some friends, and somehow the commitment issue was on the table and everyone was just talking about how good/bad is the marriage and how happiness and commitment has nothing to do with each other, somehow i got the idea that he's not ready to take a step, next day i confronted him, and his answer was " we are not ready yet, and i like everything the way it is now" i said whatever was in my mind and heart, in return i didn't receive much of answers .
I didn't want any proposal, just wanted to know it's going somewhere, and i made that clear to him. I don't know what to do or what to think, im not the kind of a person who gives up easily specially in relationships, i go till the end. But giving the circumstances i can see that i need to let him go that's my logic tells me, but letting go something that i put lots of effort and i invested in him, in the relationship, it's just hard to walk away.
I need second opinion, or anything that you think can help me with the situation.
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It sounds to me like you already know what you need to do. I was in a bad relationship for 20 years and I stayed because like you I felt I'd invested to much time. He would lie by omission and visit with other females regularly. I also believed my next relationship would be the same way so I figured at least I already knew him. I was miserable, hurt, insecure, and angry. I finally left and felt hope again. Don't beat yourself up for not having the strength to leave now. Sometimes it takes time. Always wondering if he's cheating is no way to live.
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