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Getting married and on disability!
I am 33 years old and have always wanted to get married and I currently have been dating this wonderful guy for almost 5 months and I totally in love him and want to marry him one day ,but the thing that is getting in the way is everyone keeps telling me we should just live together because if we get married I will lose my disability check and insurance , I just don't feel right about doing that for one I am a Christian and it is against both of our religious beliefs to do so and for another I feel like that's cheating the government. I just wouldn't be able to afford my medicine and my medicine is over $4,000 and I just don't know what to do please give my advice any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you!
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Despite the fact many people have told you that you would lose disability, it is best to check with Social Security as these people may have varying circumstances that change the situation. I have read on line that if the husband is employed, then it depends on what he earns and some of his earnings would be considered yours and your disability if we're talking of SSI payments, would likely be less. If your medication is truly $4,000 a month, there is no way any man could pay for that and still have money to pay for rent, food, car care, cell phone and so on, unless he was a multi millionaire or billionaire.So the wisest thing to do is call or walk in and ask. You would like to marry but you have not been asked to marry. So at this point, you can only say that you are dating and you are wondering what happens to your disability provision if by chance you ever do marry. That is what you can ask and have the amount of his pay to provide along with any proof of what medicines cost, etc.
If you would lose part or all of benefits, then you have no choice but to only date for the rest of your life. I do know of several Christian couples who consider themselves married, a few had ceremonys but the info was never given to the state/government. The commitment is there and the couples consider themselves to be husband and wife. So living together then is normal. THe government dings even the elderly who are widowed and remarry. I know of a couple like that who just turned 90 and are married 2 1/2 years. And when elderly and on Soc. Sec. there is way less income. The amount I get for hubby and self is a bit below average but not enough to find a place to live so we live out of our van. Government in my opinion should get taxes to take care of things like fixing roads, and anything else taxes usually cover. However our government keeps changing the rules of what a person owes depending on the situation. Laws keep going back and forth, something is banned, then not, then yet again, you get the picture. Some of it is wasted spending on their part so if they think they need more money coming in, they simply are unfair and taxing the poor, the handicapped, the elderly depending on their marital status. Its no wonder that some people, Christians or not never get legally married. Legal means law says its okay to do. I know Jesus told his disciples they needed to pay their taxes and provision was made by the money in a fishs mouth. I feel if Jesus were in human form on earth, he would still say we should pay our taxes but I also feel he would have something to say about the uniform taxing of all, including those who can't pay.
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