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Do we need chaperones to keep from touching each other?
So something really strange happened to me recently and my relationship with my new girlfriend has taken a weird turn. We both feel we are too young for sex even though we think about it and even talk about it sometimes just because it is fun to think about each other that way. It amazes me what we talk about late at night on the phone together. We text too but true voice is best. We are definitely bolder and more open with what we say to each other than when we are in person.
So a weird thing happened on a movie date where I bought a condom from a machine in the bathroom to show her as a joke and she thought it was funny and during the movie she said she wanted to see it. So I handed her the package. She looked at me all sexy, and whispered she wanted to see it on me. My will power totally sucked and I gave in and very slowly took out my boner which she had never seen. She made me feel studly with a smile like she approved. I put the condom on which she whispered looked cute. Without asking she reached down and stroked me slow like 4 times. I thought I was going to cum from just that but just gave out like a stifled moan and she stopped and laughed and I put myself away extremely fast. I was so red faced but we both kept laughing and actually had to leave because we were annoying other people.
So now all the time she imitates my little moan and the face I supposedly made and every time she does it we laugh like maniacs. I will grab random things and say hey I am just going grab this now to sort of make fun of her just grabbing my boner. She gets red and laughs at herself too for being like radical bold. It was like a weird little adventure and an inside joke. We have been good since then (only kissing, holding hands, hugging, and cuddling with all clothes on), but we talk about what happened a lot.
So I know it is not chaste and we should not have done it and maybe we should not be re-living it so much when we talk. We feel guilty about it some but I also feel like it was this wonderful exciting thing between us more than just horniness. It was experimenting but not like going anywhere with it. Is it wrong I don’t actually regret it? It has given us even more to talk about late at night and we are way less shy complimenting each other on our appearance and bodies and sex appeal. She has been so cool making me feel awesome about my manhood making like over the top positive comments about my boner and she can tell I am like feeling all cocky from it which she says is cute.
So we want to try more without going too far but we also admit to each other we are scared because it seems like our will power sort of sucks given the right opportunity. I can see how things can get out of control fast. It still blows our mind. And now it is like we are even more hot for each other. It sounds dumb but do you think we need chaperones? Obviously no more condom fashion shows. But on a legit deal we would like advice on how to stay pure as we can without losing the spark of hotness for each other. Do you think we will ever chill out from our weird little moment?
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You both are lucky to have each other. What I gather from your stories, is that the two of you are best of friends and have total trust in each other. This kind of friendship of closeness and trust is not very common. Even less common is finding such a close and trustful best friend who not only has this chemistry for making the best friendship but has that added chemistry for romance and desire as well. And that is what is needed for a healthy happy relationship.
So I see why it has been so comfortable for you both to explore your sexuality and support each other doing that. And thank heavens you feel you don't regret it. Regret can eat at you like a cancer and make you fail to live and thrive. I knew a woman my age at church, young and married at the time. She was so guilty still of being sexually active in HS already with the man who was her husband. The regret ate at her until she was constantly deep yellow skinned, and shriveled up like an old person or a person with cancer. She had no energy, barely even for a smile, sick often, eyes vacant often like she was there but not there. So good for you. I hope she also has no regrets. In our teens and college years, we learn from several relationships over time, what things we like and don't like in a partner. The only way we can learn is from trying something, doing something. So you both are helping each other explore in ways that still keep both of you safe.
You already know what it feels like to be even hotter for each other as you said. Adults today can look back and remember how it was for them too at that age and they know how hard it is to resist the last part of sex, intercourse or to make it plain: penis in vagina sex. And that is why many events for youth have chaperones. So a chaperon can be any human out in a social setting who would see you having sex. So its better to double date, or go to places where there are lots of people.
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