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Partying: Do I invite MYSELF to the party?
I want to go to a party but I have no one to go with. I could ask my roommate but she’s studying and Idk how to ask her. My friend said I could hit her up anytime to go with her to a party but she already left and I don’t want to invite myself. But I could. What do I do?
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Instead of "inviting yourself", which is really bad form, contact the person or persons throwing the party and ask them if it would be all right for you to attend and whether you could come alone or not.
Its easier to have a friend to go with, of course. But there are also advantages to going solo, one being that you are more open and available to meet and socialize with others, and another is that you can leave whenever you want to go.
You can also practice socializing and learn some skills , which you might not do as much, if you were with a partner.
From your description, it sounds as if its too late , or was too late, to ask your friend in any case. But if the party hasn't already happened, consider this to be both an opportunity and a challenge to grow, learn something, and to do the right thing. Good luck and good wishes, Dr. Stephanie
Good luck and good wishes, Dr. Stephanie
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Is this a party where only couples are welcome? If not, then I don't see the issue here. If you are the hostess of the party, the one creating the party, then of course you will be there and no inviting yourself need be done. If someone else is throwing the party, and they have invited you but you don't have a friend to take along, then go by yourself. If a host/hostess has not invited you, bringing someone with you who was also not invited, if not going to help. Do to limitations of seating, how many people the party area can hold, there may be good reasons not all were invited. So wanting to know how to invite yourself is definitely a new one on me. I would check with the host/hostess, and mention you know of the party and would like to attend. This puts them on the spot and they may have valid reasons, that concern you or do not concern you. I would add that no explanation is needed and you will be ok no matter what they say. YOu may not feel this way, but you have to consider the other person. If you were the party thrower and you got lots of people who weren't invited, but asking to come, you might be strange about telling them all No. Inviting yourself and just showing up without permission is called 'party crashing' just like any event you are not invited to, such as wedding crashing. This is not looked at as a proper thing to do, it is looked down upon and frowned at. Try enjoying a party you crashed where a handful of people are sending waves of animosity towards you. You wouldn't even enjoy being someplace you crashed if those attended are acting mean or hateful towards you.
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