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When people think that things come easy to you, is it jealousy?
Someone told me: “Some things come to you easier than they come to others...and few will fully understand this without judgment/jealousy/envy.” What do they mean by this? Why would a person think that things come easily for me?
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In order to understand what someone meant by what they said to you, apart from good guessing, your best bet would be to ask them, rather than us. As to why someone would think things come easily for you, it would have to be because that's what they have observed. ~Dr. Stephanie
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When a person has a ton of success and it keeps going well for them those who don't have that luck may say "some things come easier for you than they do for others." The thing is that they may not see the work you did to get there. What they are saying is that people around you can't interpret or know how you got that level of success for yourself and don't see the work that went into it.
They probably tried to accomplish the same exact things you did but didn't meet with success. That's what the person meant by it. They were right about jealousy, judging and envy because a lot of people have that towards someone who is very successful because they don't get that if they worked as hard as you did that they would be there too. It's easier for them to be jealous, have envy or judge you differently for it.
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I think it's strange the way that people project their own insecurities on people. But those aren't yours, those comments are about them. They feel that they have it so hard. But at the end of the day, they don't watch you struggle, or have bad days. Probably because you don't talk about them. Don't let that comment hold you back. They could definitely also be jealous, but more than anything I think they feel like you're farther ahead in life.
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Yes, it could be envy or jealousy. Jealousy however is a fear of losing something. Someone promoted on the job when you weren't and you can fear that you are no longer liked by the boss and in danger of losing your job, if you let your thoughts run away like that. Envy is not a fear but a wish you could do the same, especially if its a talent. When things come easy....I see that all the time in life, I have seen it as someone having a natural talent where what they try, they are instantly good at, or as in privileges, such as level of wealth and no worry about bills and able to travel places others can't. I have a daughter who taught herself to play piano on Grandma's old electric keyboard given to us. She took flute in school but soon found she could pick up any woodwind instrument and play it within a short time with no lessons. She is still like that as an adult. At a fair, she asked if she could try the didgeridoo. The seller told her it was very difficult for a newbie to play. But he let her trying and was shocked when she produced the right sounds instantly. That is what I consider to be something that comes easy to a person. Me, I have to try so hard just to play basic chords on my guitar, forget finger picking or bar chords, they are so hard for me. I had to take slow learners algebra in HS which was thrown together last minute to switch an entire 30 students who were not getting it in math. I still struggled, so I am amazed how some people take to math like a fish takes to water. The deal is to not focus on what you can't do well but discover what it is you do have a talent for. So I have a few talents, not stuff the world would rave about but talents non the less. I can harmonize to any song within no time, I am creative, artsy, and funny, making people laugh all the time.
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