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how to orgasm at 25
Hello, I am a 25 year old female. I’m not sure if I’ve ever orgasmed. When I explore myself, my interpretation of an orgasm is a feeling that builds up, releases and I’m done, and I achieve this by only rubbing my clitoris for a few minutes using the heel of my hand through pants, underwear etc. my vagina doesn’t get wet, and doesn’t need to be while doing this. But when I have sex, I feel like my vagina takes a long time to get wet even if my head is ready, and with a lot of clitoris stimulation from my partner I feel all of these things and my body starts moving away like it can’t handle it... almost like it’s over stimulated but it feels good but kind of hurts? Sometimes I can feel the pressure building up inside me but I can’t actually cross the bridge to orgasm. Does anyone experience this and have any advice? I want to orgasm for myself and for him, he always asks “did you cum?”, and I always say “I don’t know.” Are women supposed to squirt? I feel like I can’t squirt if I’m not really that wet down there. Please help
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Sounds like you have had orgasms.I have found that orgasms can be different for me. I go in with no expectations and wait to see what my body will surprise me with. Sometimes its a quick rise to the peak and release and other times it's like hitting a plateau where the intensity is a degree or two less but this peak lasts and lasts like seveals orgasms strung together. Everyone differs so there may be types of orgasms others have had that I wont.
Whats needed here is a lube and understanding that things can differ from time to time. I am a female and I do squirt. Not all females cans due to how they developed in the womb. Some females have a tube that allows the cum to empty into the vagina and for those who lack it, the cum when released goes straight into the bladder. Scientists have found when studying the urine in females who don't squirt that ejaculate is mixed in with the pee . So dont think theres something wrong in case you can't.
Not all women get really wet. Besides, the liquid from cumming is runnier than lubricant liquid released and with me, it washes away any lube and we have to reapply.
The clit has more nerve endings than the tip of a mans penis.So it is extremely sensitive. So over stimulation can occur easily. Depends on how my day is going, any stress, tired, sometimes no reason can e seen, but what my partner is doing works spendid one day and next time it is overstimulation. This doesn't mean give up. So no matter what a partner does for you, there can be many times when a toy is too fast for clit or even the finger. Here is when you need to communicate. He isn't doing anything wrong, just how your body is or isn't responding. All it takes is changing the strength and rhythym of any touch to clit, when you get that overstimulated feeling and can't peak. I always communicate this and ask for something different in the touch, describing for him how the change is working. You can also try something like him using a toy on you for a while and lifting contact away from clit for a split second, enough time to release some of the pressure and keep doing what you were doing. Any longer than two beats or a half second and I begin to lose some of that tensed muscle thing and have to start all over and you dont want that but it will also happen. As long as he hears from you and that you are okay with it and you also aren't worried, then you will do fine and discover what works best for you.
It's hard to find info on female ejaculation (squirting) so I will quickly add something here. If you squirt, it can dribble out, or you really gush and leave wet spots on the bed which can be a couple inches in diameter or at times as much as a dinner plate sized wet spot. How does gushing feel like? I'm sure clitoral stimulation can produce an ejaculation in me, but not often. I learned I could squirt when I had a partner in my past who knew how to massage the females G spot. So due to how it specificall6 feels, its best to learn with Gspot stimulation whether you can or can't. To feel your G-spot, you have to be able to know you've found it so you can describe it to your partner. So reaching in with your finger, you go just past the pubic bone and feel on the upper wall, your stomach side, of the vaginal wall for a wrinkly patch. It is wrinkled until you are aroused, when it fills with blood, just as the penis becomes engorged. ell, the female will suddenly feel an urge to pee will stimulated there. This is because the gspot is right in front of the urethra to your bladder. The fear of peeing during sex will have women squashing that pee like urge or they pull away and run for the restroom. So go pee before sex as you'll know its really empty. Also if in bed, use a towel folded to have two layers and whoever is on bottom gets this under them. Next time the urge to pee shows up while g spot is worked on, don't hold back. The release is the same feeling as letting control go to start peeing only this time the orgasms takes o ver and the pee urge stops. If theres anything else you need to know, just look up me, dragonfly magic and write to me from my column.
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You nailed it you are overstimulated. The clitoris as you know is incredibly sensitive and too much direct stimulation can make you feel like pulling away or sting or be totally uncomfortable.
It sounds as though you have experienced orgasm but not as intensely as you desired. If you feel something building up, tense and then a sudden pleasurable sensation or release that's what it is by definition.
If you try different techniques to see what your body responds to rather than always masturbating the same way you may find it get stronger. As far as vaginal dryness goes artificial lubricant makes a difference especially so intercourse doesn't hurt.
Your biggest problem really is that you are putting far too much pressure on yourself to achieve something and making it so difficult that you won't. Just let things unfold and you'll find things are a lot easier and better long term.
As far as squirting goes the debate rages about whether or not all women have this ability or if only certain people can. Healthline has put out an article that explains what it is and how and when it is usually achieved. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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