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How Do I Get Guys to NOT Look At Me?
It sounds like a weird question, but I will be sitting in class sometime in the day, and i can just feel guys staring at me, and it makes me very uncomfortable, and i want them to stop. it feels weird asking them to, because when i do they just deny it, its very annoying.
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Its not possible to control where OTHER people direct their gazes. You've already found out that speaking to them has had no effect.
You could try complaining to the teacher, and mention that some of the other students aren't paying attention , as they should. You could try to change classes, endure, knowing that this will soon end when the class is finished, or "blend in", by how you appear, dress, wear your hair, etc. But I really don't think you should have to do the last thing, unless you are very, outstandingly weird in your appearance.
This ,too, shall pass, sooner or later, as all things must do.
You may, in fact, remember this later on, as a time when you were so "attractive" that guys stared at you in admiration! When you are an old lady, you might even miss it!
Good wishes, ~ Dr. Stephanie
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TACT. Above all use TACT. You don't want to draw and entire class's attendtion to a problem you're having with one or two boys. You have to understand that they're doing it because they like you and haven't figured out that this is an undesired way of showing it. Asking them to stop politely and privately and indicating you don't have any interest is better than any in class confrontation. You don't want to draw attention to it. What they want is attention from you.
I would let your teacher know that you feel very uncomfortable in his/her class and have asked a group of boys to stop starring at you and doing things that make you feel weird. They will know better than anyone how to stop it without bringing any embarassment to you or others or further problems.
You should also consult an older female be it a mother, sister, aunt, teacher, counselor etc and ask how to handle unwanted attention from boys and see if anything they can tell you will help.
The boys are harmless and likely not out to harm you or make you feel uncomfortable. They're doing it because they like you and are checking you out. Yes, it's not right but they don't have an understanding of that yet. They're hoping you'll notice them back and be in to what they are doing. Boys are dumb at that age.
If you have spoken to them and told them how creeped out and unconcomfortable you are than that's all you really should have to do. However, making a teacher aware and having them handle it may resolve matters a lot quicker and ensure it doesn't get any worse.
You have a right to attend school and any class for that matter without feeling uncomfortable. If you feel that way and don't want to be there because of someone else's behavior that is unwanted you need to tell adults about it.
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You can't really, People will say its how you dress, but they're looking at your beauty and you can't really change that, this may be very cliche unhelpful advice but you just have to ignore it
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"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful!"
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