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My friend, i think she is toxic.
Do i drop my toxic friend>
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I think what you need to do is ask yourself why do I suddenly feel this friend is toxic? Ask yourself if there has been a pattern of behavior or not. If this is an isolated thing over one issue and you can resolve it by talking to them about it do that. If the friendship is on solid foundation you should be able to iron out a difference. If it's been consistently negative and isn't going to change than you can drop a friend. You have to establish whether they mean you well or not as well as whether things are trivial and can be forgiven or if it's a lost cause. That's about all I can offer without more details. I encourage you to write in should you need more help with more info to help us really answer.
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You have asked a question without any background information. Not that we are nosy. It simply isn't enough info to base an educated answer on. If I asked you that question and you were the advice giver, could you truthfully make the best adviced based on my situation and not answer biased on your own experiences?
You say toxic, but I do not know what makes you believe he/she is toxic. So I can't answer based on your perception of it as toxic.
All I can say is that people grow and change. Sometimes for the worse or for the better. Sometimes one of us changes and the other does not. Her I give my own example to explain. My best friend from junior high/high school days, were torn apart as her parents divorced, Dad got custody and moved to another state. We stayed in touvh but as time went on, I changed a lot, from introvert to extrovert, changed my beliefs, and many other things. She stayed in the past in a time warp. Next time we saw each other in person, we could not connect like we did as kids. She was alarmed at some of my changes, my current ideas, morals and beliefs so different from her. I grew for the better as far as I see it and am still growing and changing...that should never stop. But sadly, we no longer keep in touch. For all I know, one of you changed enough so the other one is no longer fun and you feel irritated no matter what he/she says ir dies, I do not know the age and my only different answer would be if you both are female and teens going through puberty/having periods because that is known to wreak havoc with a females emotions, the extra hormones do this until the body gets used to it. Friendship can be affected, and family too. Any other female is a target for you if you are the one irritated. Or she could be the one suffering. I wont go on as that just gives you a couple ideas of what could have gone wrong with a relationship that was once right. In general, if you are friends with someone you do not enjoy anymore, it is best to not to remain friends and go your own way. However you dont just go silent and avoid without explanation. You also do not tell them the truth of what you are feeling in case they are not at fault here. Just tell the person you believe you've changed enough that you just don't get along with her as friends and are ending the relationship. This way, you don't create enemies. Even if its not all true, something has changed, maybe even just your tolerance but he/she doesn't need to hear it and it won't be enough to cdhange any bad behavior in them. You are not their therapist nor they yours. So simply part ways if you feel you must. But if there is something you are skipping over to simply not 'deal' with it, it will come back to bite you in future relationships of any kind, maybe even marriage, so best to learn to deal with whatever it is, that makes you unhappy, and deal with it within yourself. You can not change other people, Only they can come to a place of internally wanting to change and then doing it.
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