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Low self esteem vs. Body Dismorphia


Question Posted Thursday October 22 2020, 12:40 pm

I am plagued with low self esteem, but with the recent discovery of what body dismorphia is, I find it questionable whether my low self esteem is causing my obsession with my hatred for the way my body is, or if I have body dismorphia. I really don’t like self diagnosing but the symptoms sound true to how I feel, I’d hate to suggest that this is a possible problem I have to my doctor on my next visit, so how do I even began to even tell her I’m struggling from body image and possibly something much bigger. To give deeper understanding into what I put myself through I obsess over my flat chest, I look at it everyday in a mirror, I wear jackets in public no matter the weather to conceal it although it isn’t too hard to tell. On another note, I also believe I am ugly, I sometimes sought approval from my associates by calling myself ugly(because I genuinely believe so) and I knew they would tell me I’m not so, I would contemplate on whether they were being honest? Is there judgement even good enough to say so? And if they are really right? Either way I don’t believe people when they say something along the lines of calling me pretty, beautiful, etc. I also hate taking pictures or even the suggestion of videos or pictures, I sometimes avoid my bathroom mirror to avoid seeing my face, I don’t think there’s anybody that can tell me anything about beauty to make me believe I’m not ugly.

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solidadvice4teens answered Tuesday October 27 2020, 8:31 pm:
There really should be ZERO anxiety or feelings of shame by reaching out to your doctor. Your doctor is absolutely your best friend and advocate on this.

They will help you get the right treatment and on to the path of wellness where you will overtime attain the level of self-esteem you have always wanted. If you don't tell your doctor you can't heal and would continue suffering needlessly. It may be hard to do but once you pour your heart out to them things will get better for you.

The only person who can help you is a doctor because they have to figure out what the trigger is/was for all this self-hatered and psychologically what drives it and how long you have felt this way. Honestly, nobody here and other that a medical practitioner and perhaps a psychiatrist if need be can tellyou if this is body dismorphia or something else.

When it comes to self-diagnosing you'll drive yourself bonkers with it and scare the shit out of yourself with the discriptions on the Internet put that aside.

A doctor is used to hearing all kinds of concerns some of them more embarassing than others for patients and are pretty good with teens and pre-teens and hell even adults at putting you at ease and genuinely helping.

If talking about this is difficult I suggest calling for an appointment and saying it's about body image and no self-esteem. Then when you go the doctor will know the issue and start the conversation with you.

One of the best things you can do is actually print out you letter to us and ask your doctor to read from it and let them ask you questions and get things started. Also, if you have a parent, adult you trust or a sibling that could go with you and help you feel calmer that's certainly okay too.

I guarentee you that you're more beautiful inside and out than this mental disturbance is suggesting you are. Know who you are inside and keep reminding yourself of that truth.

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