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What can I do?
hello i work with this guy who looks at me all the time. one day he came up to me and introduced himself to me and i got kinda nervous, i didn\'t say much haha. \r\ni was wondering what kind of signals to send to this guy at work to talk to me but with being very busy at work i find it very hard to approach him. there are times i\'m not near him to say anything to him.\r\nwhat can i do? he\'s always staring at me so i\'m thinking he\'s interested. it\'s really hard to approach him when i\'m in different areas at my job and may not get a chance to see him.\r\nthe most we really have done is say hi to each other and after that i\'m not sure how to go about it more lol.\r\nhe\'s probably in his 30s like me and it\'s really impossible to get near him since i\'m not always bear him. Any suggestions? i mean he\'s always looking at me from across the room. i want to poke his eyes out to do something lol and i or he needs to break the ice. i was hoping he would make a move but maybe I should break the ice?
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Returning his gaze should be enough. Better still, a smile. And perhaps come a little closer. All still demure. Or you can be bolder. Essentially, he has already accepted you, and only awaits response.
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If a guy can't stop looking, there is an interest level of some sort. So yeah, ask about hanging out after work for a coffee. You do need to talk to see if your interest goes beyond what you see on the outside. Is there chemistry, that excited feeling being around him and you can only tell when spending time in person, not via text.
He probably stares a lot because he has no more idea than you how to start a conversation with someone you think is showing interest. Never say at first meet up that you want to be his girlfriend or accept such an offer because you need to find out what this person is like. If you make no commitment, then if he turns out to be someone you are not interested in his personality no matter how he looks, then you don't want to have given him false hope. At first meets with guys from internet, I always met at a coffee shop they agreed upon. This way, I am only paying one drink for my way and he gets his, no expectations, just talk to get to know better. If you do not have an interest in him but want to meet to find out why he stares at you, its time to realize that just because a guy approached you, you do not have to meet with him. There is no purpose if you already know he doesn't turn your interests on. Some guys can be really shy but are great once they warm up and feel more comfortable. He should feel more comfortable if afraid and you ask him. There is no longer rules about a guy having to approach the girl first. So go ahead and see what happens.
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When you see him again ask if he would be free some time for coffee. If he's interested in you which seems to be the case he will come up with something that works for the both of you. This actually protects you because asking for coffee doesn't mean "date" always because colleagues meet over coffee a lot. This just is a feel eachother out moment to see how you click and what is there.
There's nothing at all wrong with mentioning to him that you're getting mixed signals or vibes and are at a loss to know what's happening. It's best to find out and this is a safe way to do so that won't to him look like confrontation which isn't what you want. It seems you're as interested as he is.
Just remember that guys also feel intimidated to approach women for fear of rejection too. They hear because they are traditionally in the asking role "no" a heck of a lot. If he likes you he may be fearful of you being aware and also what would happen in the office or with job if you took to him wrong. If he's staring at you all the time his body language is indicating what he can't say to you.
Just ask for coffee and go from there as that's your ice breaker right there. If someone is interested in you they'll do anything to accept your invite and be there. If he blows off this request than you know there's nothing there. The worst thing that could happen is him saying no.
There's this whole other thing about his job and being professional in the workplace. He might think if he approached you and you didn't like the staring that things could get really bad there. However, if you approach him and show interest over coffee and he responds to it than you know you both have same intentions.
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