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My best friends are excluding me
I’m 16 and a female and I have had the same three best friends since junior high. In the past, we’ve all been inseparable. But recently, they have been ignoring my texts and hanging out without me. I’ve reached out to them asking if i did anything to offend them, but they’ve all brushed it off by saying “of course not” so I really don’t know what to do.
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Those don't sound like good friends to me, I've gone through many phases where I thought people were my friends but they left me and hung out with the same people for years and even into our 30's they are still with those people.
Not that this pertains to you or not but I feel like you grow more as a person if you develop new friendships excluding ones from your younger years. It's all about quality too especially with how they treat you.
It sounds like you also tried to confront them- if they brush you off then they aren't your friends. At your age people care too much about what people think of them and they're catty and rude.
I hope they either come to their senses or you could move on. Try hanging out with other people- they might even approach you and ask you what happened? I would shrug it off and say I deserve better friends who love and value me not people who have double standards and are two-faced. It's also a rough stage where girls go through and sadly it never stops.
Teen years suck- I remember jumping around group to group and it was easier since I couldn't get caught up in the same people without any investment of feelings being involved.
I hope you can find some comfort in ignoring their crappy behavior and find better people to invest your time in.
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How long has this been happening? Have they met a new friend? If they have met someone new they might be spending a lot of time with that person and not others. If this is not the case then it's true that they are mistreating you and not telling you why you're being excluded. Friends don't do that or rather shouldn't.
What would I do? If I were you I would go about your normal life as though they weren't a part of it and give them no mind. Wait and see if they come back around or not. In the meantime spend time with other people and make new friends of your own. True friends always come back but if they don't...
You have done what you can here to figure things out with them. It's an unfortunate part of life that people who were tight for a long time can drift apart as they find new interests or begin not to have anything in common. That may be what is happening here.
They might have chosen for whatever reason that you're out of their circle and hope that you pick up on the fact that this is the case rather than stating it to you. I would adopt a wait and see mode for awhile and then accept that the friendships are over.It says way more about them than you for deserting you in this fashion.
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