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Is He Interested?
F/24. This is kind of between love and work. One of my coworkers has been acting a little strange, and I didn't even think he might've been interested in me until recently, so now I'm micro-analyzing all our interactions. For example, I was working by myself, and he popped up out of nowhere and just sort of stayed there for a while. We talked for a bit but I noticed he was quieter than usual. I wasn't really paying attention to his body language because I had my attention on working.
This other time he was talking about a funny little comic taped to a door that I hadn't noticed. When I went to it to read it, he came up behind me to read it as well. I think I've seen him get that close to other coworkers as well so I didn't really think anything of it.
I realized the last few days that he's been a little quieter in general. I think he's just concerned about something in his life or maybe just not feeling too talkative. I feel like I'm just overthinking things and I'm way off base but I want to be sure to avoid an uncomfortable/awkward situation.
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This is definitely a look before you leap situation. He might be interested in you and behaving like he has for that reason or he could be overly friendly. You might be reading his body language correctly and then again misinterpreting it.
The problem here is that you have to go to work with this guy every day. If you get this wrong and think he's likes you and it ends terribly that entire office is going to think differently of you. It could get very awkward and even messy. Your employment and how your boss sees you is very important.
I think what you can do is politely ask him for a drink after work. This doesn't mean a romantic thing but as you get talking to him outside the office you'll get a sense of what he thinks of you or his intentions were. If he doesn't want to join you no problem. It's a way of guaging his interest with no risk. If he doesn't want to go than he's not in to you because someone who is would be right on it.
If you do it this way it doesn't have the ability to become something everyone knows about especially if you misjudged his behavior around you. There's nothing messy here because people go have drinks all the time. It's a no pressure way of sizing things up.
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I cannot say for sure if he is interested, there just isn't enough there for me to say for certain. It could be that he is acting this way to try make conversation so he can get closer to you and get to know you better and at the same time it might be he is interested in you and just hasn't got the nerve to show it yet. All I can suggest is you make it easier for him to talk to you (make conversation) and see where it goes from there. Really, there is just no way to know his intentions but what are your intentions? If he likes you what would you want to do? Are you interested in him? If you are interested in him then try talk to him and perhaps indicate that but if your not then do what you have been doing and just ignore it. If you don't know where you stand again, just ignore it and don't overthink things and they should all fall into place.
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