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Is 16 and 19 too big an age gap?
OK, I've been friends with this girl on social media for a few months, and am contemplating starting a long-distance relationship with her (I posted a question on here about it not so long ago), as we're in two different countries. The 2 of us are very similar people, with the same interests, and similar personalities. But one of the things that kind of puts me off starting a relationship is the age gap- I'm only 16, and she's 19. I'm not planning to do anything sexual or anything, but am just kind of worried that even if she is interested in me the same way I'm interested in her, that the age will throw her off. Apart from the age difference, we're very similar people and I wouldn't want to mess up the friendship I have with her already by the age gap being an issue. I just want something a bit more than friendship- have had 2 major crushes in the past, and both of them ended up being horrible people. I finally found a nice person that I have feelings for, and there's an age gap obstacle in the way. What should I do? Is this too big of an age gap?
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Honestly i think you should wait until you’re 18 so you don’t have to question about the age gap same goes for her since you’re concerned about it if you wait you’ll be close enough to her age and there won’t be a concern if you don’t want to ruin your friendship with her then i wouldn’t rush into thing’s i wouldn’t try and rush into a relationship right away you‘ve got all the time in the world to even more develop your similarities interest’s personalities and just be a friend to her get to know her i mean you already know you have feeling’s for her so that isn’t a issue just because there is a age difference now doesn’t mean there won’t be one in the future when you get older if you feel you can hold out until you turn 18 get older then you should there really is no rush like i said you’ve got all the time in the world you’ve got your whole life ahead of you!
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If you can handle doing more of the same, being internet friends already with things in common for two years until you are an adult at 18 in USA or whatever the age is where you live then go for it. People who meet on line may have a meeting of the minds and one can love that persons mind, which is a good thing but that falls under friendship. The only thing different from friendship and a couples relationship is the romantic side, desire for each other and the sexual love. This is something not everyone can feel for the other even if they like their minds. The thing to do is be friends only for now and keep being friends. When you are close to being an adult legally, then let her know and if she is interested in more, then you both have to meet in person to see if you feel that chemistry needed to make such a couple. If its there, you proceed, if not, stay friends but look for someone nearby to date. Your teen years are not for long term anything, but dating enough different people to keep trackj of what you like and dont like about the other person and next one you go a step better and make sure this one doesnt have the same bad things about them. So in a way, the kind of people you date, should evolve into someone better each time. An LDR doesn't work into that plan. Its not too big a gap. tHE GAP is felt when its a generation gap like ten plus years or more.
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