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"Modern Dating my a.."
I am in my 30's and the guys in my generation are an absolute joke. Throughout my whole life I have been working on myself and have the worst of luck with guys. I don't understand why I can't simply date and I REFUSE to be apart of the trashy hook-up culture. Guys have never chased me and I have always been the one going after guys. What am I doing wrong? They reject me 24/7 and I am beyond sick of trying anymore. I don't settle for less, I don't take crap from anyone at all. I'm old fashioned. I have tried online dating- which is a complete joke, virtual/speed dating- another joke and if I try to develop some kind of connection it disappears. I have been ghosted, lied to, treated like crap on so many accounts or treated like an option. THEY DO NOT make guys like they used to, the guys are classless nowadays. Everyone screws each other and MORAL DECAY is real my friends!! How can I find a decent guy? I have read endless articles, books on dating. This culture is pure trash. I know I'm not the only one who feels like this way but it's OLD beyond old. All I want to do is go on dates, I've always been independent, and strong. I guess guys don't like classy women??
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You're not going to get anywhere if you think every male your age is a complete joke. You don't have to settle for anyone who isn't right for you but you're projecting as someone who is self-absorbed and think the entire process of dating or getting to know people is a joke if they don't conform right away to your expectation. You may have been ghosted or treated poorly by certain person(s) in the past but if you go into any situation thinking you're going to be crapped on guess what you'll never be able to connect with anyone.
You're putting out the image of someone who thinks she's a tough girl but is insecure as well as someone who isn't really taking them seriously. You're intimidating as well as confusing to them. You have to drop all that and the I won't take crap from anybody or my generation is a joke crap and relax. They're rejecting you 24/7 because this is the image of yourself that you're projecting onto a giant screen to them.
Decent guys your age and even a little younger do exist. Not everyone will reject you. You need to look at people who may seem ordinary or extremely lowkey which may not be this idea of what you think someone looks and sounds like. Those guys are the ones that make the right partners 9 timess out of 10 and lasting relationships. They may be right under your nose and it's important not to ignore people around you not fully on the radar.
You should swear off dating apps but rather join clubs, take courses (especiially drama) or something where you interests would already be shared and let things unfold. I think you also try to force things when a relationship if it happens needs to evolve.
Also, your friends and siblings if you have any know who you are. See if they can find someone that they feel would mesh with you. Above all chuck your current attitude and be open to anyone and everyone that comes into your experience. You won't be dating everyone you meet but don't write off anyone because you never know how good a partner they may have made. You have to learn not to be judgmental or pass it willingly or subconciously on to people so easily.
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