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Burdens of Dealing With My Sister's Stuff
My sister’s such a fucking screwup, just last month she ran away from home with her 21 and older boooyfriend(she’s 17🙄), long story short she came back home days later, and I intentionally overheard her multiple conversations that night telling people how he chocked her and pulled a knife on her, and basically showed his crazy side.During her “vacay” she fucked up her attendence at school and continues to do so,How? Oh her dumass is lying 🤥 about where she’s going and when she’s not doing that she’s using the most dumbest excuses.But still with the perky naive belief that she’s in the clear and can graduate smoothly. Anyways I just found out that she’s lying about where she’s going just so she can have date nights with the same fucking psycho I mentioned earlier, can you fucking believe this, is she the dumbest bitch or what?. It’s always the same friend she’s using as a scapegoat to leave the house, and now all the times she’s said she’s going to that friends house since her escape I don’t know whether she was with her dearest psycho or chillin the fuck out for real that time with that said friend( who is in college for a 2nd! Time after dropping out the 1st time and is also married to a man who SHE meet in high school who was also GROWN AF). Should I share this information I have attained with my mother or keep it. Also After she returned from her extensive vacation (might I add a few days later) I intentionally overheard another conversation TALKING TO PSYCHO SAYING SHE FORGAVE HIM.
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I know it hurts to see your sister going the wrong way. I had a sibling or two who made bad choices and no matter how often my youngest sibling tried to help out one in particular who continuously made really bad decisions well into adulthood. I gave up as I was married and had three children to care for and didn't need to add an adult one to the mix. So I may understand, but now as an adult looking at your situation, I realize a sibling is not the person in the family who should be taking care of another sibling or worrying about how to get that sibling back on the right track. That is the job of your parents. Some parents have no clue whats going on with a child either because they are too pre-occupied with their own stuff and have no energy left to really care and its easier to do nothing,, or as in my case, there is a child who is very good at hiding things. My oldest experienced depression in HS and didn't tell me until after the birth of her first child it got worse with post partum depression. All I can say is that I wish someone, even any friends of hers had told me so I could have done something,, take her to a doctor. Your sister doesn't need a doctor but a counselor should help. There' a year or less left til she turns 18 and is considered an adult and your parents will no longer be able to lay down the rules for her and enforce them. I would suggest a family counselor where the whole family goes to see the same counselor, usually all at once with each explaining what issues they want addressed. My husband was part of such a deal as an older child not teen yet, when his parents had trouble in marriage and the counselor decided each of the three kids needed to see him as well because if there is something wrong going on with one or more people in a family, its a good guess that children will be affected in some way, such as is the case for you and all the worry isn't healthy either. My husband recalls talking with the counselor on his own, each child being seen to tell their end of story, without any family member around. He shared what he saw happening and the counselor was so impressed with now intelligent he was as a child, high IQ, that he became a friend and mentor for my husband to look up to, even after the family problems were taken care of.k Your sister may need someone other than her parents setting her straight. So it is certainl6 worth a try but none of this will happen unless you tell your parents and ask them to not share how they found out, that your sister will not know that you are the one who told them and show this to your parents if you feel it might help but a family counselor, one who is able to work with both adults and children would be helpful. Your parents can learn things to do, ways to deal with your sister. You are a great sister for caring so much but its time for you to lay this burdon at your parents feet and for them to get help from a professional.
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