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3 friends/ girls Freshmen in highschool
Surely but not even slowly, the girls I not so long ago began to claim as friends have changed. They’ve all gotten into their “ relationships” which was the inevitable but still shocked me a little at discovering it. But hears my real problem we barely talk due to no classes together, even when the new semester starts we’ll have a class together I don’t know if I could see them as the same girls. Does them engaging in relationships mean they’ve changed?,I’m quite biased, and do I still consider it a friendship? What’s the status?.
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People of all ages will not pay close attention to their regular world, classes, job, or frienda and family when they meet a new romantic partner. It eventually wears off and they will include you or want to spend time with you. After all, how many older married people do you observe who have been married quite a while who do not keep in touch with friends and spend time only with their significant other? I don't know of any.
I know it sucks to feel left out but theres nothing to do to change or speed it up. I expect that one day when you find a special guy, you will find yourself spending more time with him than friends.
Actually to tell the truth, if the time is used correctly, it is a great way to spend enough time toghether to learn if the guy meets any criteria you have for a guy or if there are things about how he treats you or character faults you w on't tolerate. The sooner you find this out, a person can either stay and bond closer or break up. When divorced at around 50, I started dating again and believe me I met plenty of toads, even talking about grown men and not teen boys. However, when I first heard from my second husband on a dating site I was on, I responded and was so excited because I could sense by how and what he wrote that he sounded very promising. We weren't dating yet but the next week, due to his work schedule, we talked on the phone all evening til midnight until we could finally meet in person the following weekend. From then on, neither of us wanted to spend any time apart and I'd go for dinner there after work and in about 6 weeks ended up living with him, the final test to see if there was anything he was hiding that you can't see if you just go out on dates. During all this time of meeting him, the long calls, I had no time to even think of calling my sister or my own kids, my mind was focused on him but a month after meeting him, I could hardly wait to tell my family about him and take him to meet them all and he meshed in with my family really well. I am just telling my story to show how this is a normal phase most people will all go through, at any age. I might not have felt as giddy as a teenager but I sure was excited still.
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Aside from starting to date you need to ask yourself if they really have changed apart from that. If they are fundamentally the same people with same values and interests as before than odds are things are fine.
They may be swamped with school as are you. Also, the whole relationship thing is new so they're totally into that but once the honeymoon is over and novelty of it dies down I'm sure they'll be back to hanging out as before. If you find that you have zilch in common anymore and don't like them than move on.
I'm being honest that I see a hint of jealousy here from you that you really want to be dating and doing exactly as they are and expieriencing the same thing. That's normal but it's also an indication that you can have what they have and can/should explore that if it's what you feel ready for.
There's nothing wrong at all with reaching out to them and telling them you miss hanging out. I would suggest trying to throw a get-together on a weekend and see what happens. Judging from who comes, doesn't or fails to get back to you it will give you a sense of where the real friend is or isn't among them. That's what I would try.
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