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A big misunderstanding between me and my bestfriend
I am teenage girl studying in 12th std..I have best friend V(her name)she is like my best friend for past 7 years we share everything literally everything..she is one of the most important people in my life but recently she stopped talking with me partially it's my mistake..there is a guy who is also our bestfriend he is literally the sweetest. So one day he told me big secret and asked me not to tell V ..it was a huge thing and it was pretty private so I didn't tell her the next day..but I was not comfortable in hiding things from her so the day after that I told her there is a thing I didn't tell which the guy bestfriend told me..as soon as she heard it she was hurt .bow she is thinking he is more important to me but its clearly not..so please help me fix this
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I think there is misunderstanding also between what you wrote and want me to know. So far, I don't get it why she is upset. She is not the one who asked you to keep a secret. If anyone was mad, it would be the guy who told you a secret. Secret means info you do not share after being told it. It should remain between just you and the teller. Now that that is clear, you didn't say how the guy feels. You did not say that your girlfriend is mad because she learned you told her the guys secret and now she feels she can't trust you any more, or mad because the guy found out she knew and accused her of snooping around for the info, or she's mad because the actual content of the secret is something she wishes now she didn't know and is therefore mad you enlightened her about his secret. I do not get the connection to her feeling he is more important to you than her by you telling his secret. If you can't be true enough or care enough to keep his secrets but you would do that for her, that should show her that you care more about her, not the guy. But lastly, when did ranking between friends become important. It never did. The only people who have problems with their standing in being the most important friend and in twisted thinking that has them think this, are also people most likely to have low self confidence, and or low self esteem. Until I get more detailed or facts straightened out, I have no idea what to tell you to do about her. If it is low image of herself causing this, there is nothing you can do to fix it but a licensed therapist could help her. The only thing you can do is work on keeping secrets or telling a person not to tell you their secret, because you are unable to keep secrets.
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