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going for movie
I am from India. I am 19 years old and I am a girl. Should I go out with my friends for a movie tomorrow? I met them day before yesterday and my mom is scolding me to go again.
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At the end of your 18th year, you reached the age of majority, which means you are considered an adult. This also means you can make your own decisions. So you do not require your Moms blessing and okaying on everything you do from now on.
However, this is later than the day you were concerned about. I just want you to know this for the future. Do you have a Dad and what does he think? When you say she scolded 'again', that word means it has happened before and this is not the first time she has told you to stay home.
So I wonder if you live in a dangerous area of the city or if the theater you want to go to is in a dangerous area. If her only reason to worry is because of possible danger because young women are accosted all the time, then you may want to consider taking safety measures. I don't know if you can carry pepper spray in India as we have in US for safety, but whatever the equivalent is in India, I would do whatever I can to be safe.
If you are an only child or the first one to become adult child in your family, many parents have a hard time letting go and allowing their kids to make their own decision. You may have to remind her of that. It is a good thing though to run any ideas of yours past Mom or any adult you trust to look out for your best interest. The way it should work is that they only offer advice when you ask for it, but that doesn't always happen and you may have to remind Mom of that also.
Lastly, I will mention that the frontal lobe of your brain is not done growing, has not reached it's full adult potential. OUr bodies mature long before our brain does. Scientists have stated that will happen around age 25. You may be close but I remember needing help with advice during that period of time, until I could make the best decisions possible. So as long as you run things by parents and listen to their concerns, and like listening to what I have to say, you take all the different points of view and information in, before you make any decision and you should be fine.
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