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I'm too insecure to wear a dress :/
hi! i'm 15 years old, and like most teenagers i'm very insecure about myself, especially my body. i'm not a very curvy girl, in other words i'm VERY skinny. i don't have any curves, not many thighs, i don't have any butt etc etc. tomorrow i have a presentation for school and i have to wear a bodycon dress for it and when trying it on today my body looked like a table, i was so sad. i need help! what do i do? i don't want everyone at school tomorrow bothering me about how horrible i look :/ advice pls!
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As someone who likes both girls and guys, I’m going to have to tell you. People have different types. Some like girls curvy, some like them thick, and some prefer them more petite like you. I heard in people drawing comic strips that the art isn’t as vivid and fun if everyone’s body types were the same.
Besides, you’re not just your body. You’re your talents, skills, strengths, kindness, hobbies, values and all kinds of other stuff. Next time you’re insecure, ask, “What makes you you?”
Best of luck.
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As a former teenage boy, I guarantee you there are plenty of teenaged boys who think slender girls are beautiful/hot. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your body. Have you checked your BMI number yet (Body Mass Index)? I bet that number will show you are in the healthy range. You can Google it (be sure you're using the version for teens, not adults.) I bet you anything there are boys already interested in you - IF that's what you want or may want later. If you are worried about your size/weight or get a bad BMI number, you do have the option of gaining a little weight, and your body might not be done developing, since you are only 15. Remember that you're more than the sum of your breasts, butt, and waist. Look at Kate Moss - the boys at her school called her "sticks" and look at the incredible modeling career she's had (and BTW, despite people calling her "anorexic" her BMI number was actually in the healthy range for her age, height and weight at the time.) Anyway, you sound awesome to me. Walk out there like you own the place - you might someday!
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Lots of teenage girls are tiny and without curves, I was one of them. I didn't think I looked bad as there were plenty of others who had close to the same tininess with no curves. It wasn't until I was in my 50s and working at a fast food place that one of the young girls befriended me and she was skinnier in her twenties than I ever was in HS. She had that almost anorexic look. In fact, when I was younger, people would quietly ask my family members if I was anorexic. I do know the difference of flat and skinny with no curves or fleshy covering and the look of a malnourished body. This is a phase of your life. It won't last forever. By 18 or 20 you will have grown and changed some, again by 30 or after having kids and in mid life too. I was 110 in HS and did not reach 115 until early thirties. It took until I hit late forties and age 50 to get to 125-128.
I know a body con dress is a snug tightly clinging dress. What I do not understand is why you are told you have to wear one for school to do your presentation in? Does this mean every girl present in class who does not own one needs to buy one to do a presentation? Some girls never wear dress, not for your reasons but simply because they don't like wearing dressing and feel more comfortable in pants. So what I am guessing is that perhaps if wearing your 'best clothes' or 'dressing up' was mentioned, it did not necessarily mean wearing a dress. A boy dressing up does not wear a dress but slacks rather than jeans and a dress shirt. A female can be dressed up by wearing slacks, a nice blouse and maybe a blazer jacket over that. So if you were not told you Must wear this specific type of dress by your teacher, then I would borrow a dress from someone if the only one you own is a body con. I have no idea why you would wear one. I never have either as I used to be too skinny and after having kids I had the poochy stomach that I didn't like the look of in tight dresses, skirts, or any kind of clothing wear it would look emphasized. You need to clarify with the teacher why you must wear that particular style if they said so. I can hardly imagine it is an overall school policy that girls in all classes who do a presentation must wear body con style. There must be something you forgot to tell me. Just in case it is as you say, and the teacher doesn't give a satisfactory answer, go to the principal or a counselor at school and ask. If your teacher is the only one making this requirement and it is not a private school with strict dress codes, then your teacher may be out of line for requesting females show off what they have or don't have yet. They are testing you for your brain and knowledge, not how sexy your body looks. So as far as my own opinion counts, I do not see this as on the level if actually required. Talk to your Mom and if there is this edict from the teacher to wear body con dresses, whether male or female teacher, Mom should really get involved and let them know you will be wearing either nice dress pants or a dress that you like. You do have to talk to someone in your world about it. I can't do it for you from here. It comes across as aexist thing to be told you have to wear such a thing.
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