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Boyfriend mother
My boyfriend wants me to introduce myself to his mother while his in Dubai. I have no idea what and how. Advice please.
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It seems quite strange to introduce yourself to his mother while he's away especially as she doesn't know who you are so I'd be asking him this question if I was you
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I don't agree! It's your boyfriend's job to introduce you to his mother. Once he gets back from Dubai he can plan something where you and his mom can meet.
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First of all, try to understand why he wants you to do that. If it's not urgently, it's better to wait until your boyfriend comes back and then met with his mother together.
If it's urgently, you can't just knock on her door. Ask boyfriend to warn his mom about meeting.
It's not a good idea to visit the place where she lives or ask her to come around. You'd better met in neutral territory, maybe somewhere in the cafe.
Try to wear decent, clean and tidy things, make not aggressive make-up. Smile a lot, try to listen more than speak, but answer if she asks you.
Ask your boyfriend what his mom likes and dislikes to avoid unpleasant situations.
And good luck!
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While this is a strange request on his parr there could be some good reason(s). To introduce yourself is entirely up to you. If you decide to do so I suggest the following ways:
1. If she is on social media send her a friend request. When and if she responds you can explain who you are and ask her to meet you for lunch or coffee.
2. Call her on the phone. If she agrees to meet you set a time and place.
3. Last but not least is the old fashion way; go knock on her door one day.
My only question is why he didn't introduce you to her before he left. This could be some type of loyalty test. If so I caution you on growing this relationship for the man is a controler and he will want to control your every move, including what clothes you wear, who your friends are. Everything in you life . Controllers can also be violent and you can get hurt/ So think about this and then decide
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And where is his mother, in your country or in the U.A.E.? If she lives in your country, and he wants you to meet her, he shouldn't be leaving that up to you to just call or show up on her step and introduce yourself. That is something I have never heard of in my entire life. So maybe it is a custom from his country if he is of a nationality other than you, or perhaps it is how his parents did things and he thinks its normal. If he doesn't have enough time to introduce you both to each other and actually be present at this meeting before he goes to Dubai, then he should wait and do so after he gets back. If his mom is in another country, then the only way to introduce yourself is to do so over the phone. If he is asking you to call, he should at least let his Mother know that he would like if she has a chance to talk to his girlfriend and that he has given the girlfriend Moms number so Mom can expect a call from you at some point. But without any warning ahead, asking you to call her, it just sounds awkward to me. I know if any of my daughters had asked their current boyfriend to phone me or show up at my door when I had never met them before, I would not be as welcoming, even if they produced the right name. A person could have gotten the name in some way and is using this as a ruse to get into my home and then rob me or something. I am generally a trusting person if I have had a chance to gauge a persons character before welcoming them into my home. I have no special hints on what to do because to me and how I was raised, this request is in bad taste and could be seen as bad manners. So if you are willing to do so, tell him to initiate the process by preparing MOm, telling her of a phone call or a visit. You could stand your ground and say you will not do so unless he has some part in it. If he can explain the haste to do so while he is gone rather than do so with him after he gets back and it is reasonable, then maybe you will do it.
I am a very outgoing friendly person and even I would not like being told to do this for someone, meet a family member who has never met me before and do so on my own, without them present. Introductions are done like this: Bill and his wife Sheila are at Starbucks when in walks a coworker of his, Tim. He is not going to tell his wife o walk up to the guy and introduce herself as his coworker Bills wife, but he will get Tims attention and say something like "Hi buddy. Never thought I'd run into you here. Tim this is my wife Sheila and Sheila, this is Time. He's the one I told you I usually eat lunch with and he is the IT guy at our company.
That is how it truly is done, the the person who knows both people, but both people have never met, maybe only heard of each other, that person does the job of introducing both to each other. You'd have to ask him what he wants you to do and how to go about it or insist he does it the way you were raised, he has to be present in any introductions.
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