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How to get my dad to stop treating us like little kids?
I’m 20 years old my siblings are 18 and 15, my dad keeps treating us like little kids. For example he will talk to us in third person he’ll literally say “your dad isn’t feeling well today” as if we don’t know who he is. I’ve told him multiple times to stop talking in third person but he doesn’t listen. Whenever we want to go out or do something he’ll say “I’ve seen more days than you guys you’ve never been exposed to what the world really is” however how are we supposed to know if we can’t go out?. He’s not strict but there’s days where all of a sudden his strict parenting style comes out where he’ll force us to do chores and if we don’t listen he acts like a dictator. (2 years ago he actually slapped me for not wanting to was the dishes). Then on other days he’ll say he wants us to grow up and stop acting like kids? But when we try he does stuff like this? Any advice or tips?
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Do you only have a Dad? If there's a Mom, talk to her about this so she can talk to him. Playing dictator and controlling is not normal. He does have some problems that only a mental health specialist can sort out for sure. If there is no Mom or Mom is terrified of him , or wimpy and scared, then you will need to mention this to another trusted adult, like an aunt you may be close to, even grandma, asking for their help but this is considering your minor aged sibling. If that doesn't work, talking to school counselor or a church pastor. even if you don't attend church, find a near by church and ask to speak to the pastor and ask him what can be done.
Since you and the 18 yr old are considered adults, you have to take care of your own welfare. Living at home for economic reasons is understandable but authorities will simply say you both can leave. However one sibling is 15 and must live at home so in this case, a call to CPS may help.
You can't force Dad to do anything unless he isn't doing the basics of providing shelter, food and clothes for your youngest sibling. He isn't required to do this for adult children even if you are in tight financial situations.
I would suggest, you and the other find work if you haven't, find another person or two to share an apartment with 3 bd rm and you and sis sharing one if need be. This way getting out of the house is possible. I am so sorry to hear this. I hope all works out well for you 3
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