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I feel like I don’t belong anywhere?
Growing up I’ve always struggled with friend groups and keeping friends. So for years I’ve been searching for that friend group where I belong but no luck. Today I was hanging with a couple of my work friends and some of them are already best friends and consider themselves sisters. I was in the car with them and I almost started crying (obviously I didn’t) because it was so nice seeing a group of friends and it looked like a movie. I’ve never had a group of best friends like that and I just feel like I don’t belong anywhere what do I do?
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I agree that you haven't given enough of the kind of information that would give us the best clue as to how to respond to you. Feeling left out, always on the outside of a group of people looking in like looking in a store window, frustrated, wondering why people don't notice you or want to invite you...
You didn't mention being shy or having social anxiety however I had that as a child and teen. And I felt all those things I just wrote. And it wasn't their fault. The problems lay with me. Looking back, I don't blame them for not finding me interesting enough to invite to things and become a friend. I did have 3 close friends in HS but that was it and I still felt those things. A low self esteem is usually at the center of why it is happening. I am now outgoing and confident and a totally different person, Have no trouble making friends. I see the quiet people who barely talk, low self confidence and realize they seem on sight to look boring and not worth my time. So I can easily understand how one ends up without friends and no one wanting to give you a try even. Let me know in more detail what exactly you struggle with other than making friends. What I mean is things like fear of how to start a conversation with a person or social anxiety. I have followed plans that helped me overcome both of those without having to see a doctor. If that is your case, I can share them with you but there is still a chance you may benefit more from seeing a counselor.
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I am not a doctor as such I cannot offer a diagnoses. While you didn't give a lot of information I think you may suffer from low self-esteem. This is not something that can be fixed with a pill but it is fixable.
There are a number of different reasons a person suffers from low self-esteem and I would only be guess as to the why so I won't. What I will suggest is therapy with psychologist.
Most of the time the problem is buried deep in you sub-conscious which is why it is important to find a psychologist you are comfortable with as he or she does become your new best friend. A friend you can tell your deepest and darkest secrets to. If you are not comfortable with your psychologist ask to be refereed to someone else. There are different methods psychologist use in their practice. As such different psychologist will treat patients differently.
Start by seeing your family doctor for a complete physical to rule out any biological problem then ask for a referral(if needed).
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