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Should I just stop trying?
I have this friend from high school the last time I saw her was the ending of 2016. However, every time I try to make plans with her she would disappear and then respond the day after we were supposed to hangout. I’ve always gave her the benefit of the doubt but it’s not like she’s busy cause she’s not. Everytime I text her she says she’s always home because she didn’t go to school after high school and she didn’t get a job either so I’d figure we could hangout but she’s always flaking should I just stop trying? One time the day we were supposed to hangout long story short my other friend and I were at the place we were supposed to meet her at and she didn’t answer her phone calls and didn’t text me till two weeks later asking if I was still mad at her for flaking. So I forgave her (this happened in August of last year) now it’s july of this year and after still trying to make plans with her I haven’t seen her should I just stop? I think a reason why I keep trying is because I don’t really have other friends because if I cut her off I won’t really have anyone
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You said: because if I cut her off I won’t really have anyone
You're fooling yourself dear, you already don't have anyone because she can't be counted on as your one and only friend.
I can't say why she is avoiding you but in all this time, it's obvious she doesn't want to be your friend any longer.
Don't take it personally though. There is nothing wrong with you. Its just that people change and grow quickly at HS ages and into college. So perhaps she is embarrassed with how her life is turning out and would rather not be with anyone who knew her before she slid into a spot of no college and no job. Also, if she is not working, she is sponging off someone, the parents or a bf and has no real money of her own so going out somewhere, even for just a coffee may be something she can't do. I'd say it isn't the only reason because even if you said you'd treat her out, she'd still not want to go. It's possible that she or you have changed enough that she feels you have nothing in common anymore, whether its true or not. But have fun trying to convince her. I'd say its time to give up trying to fill your spare hours with something to do, mainly trying to convince her to get together.
Your time would be better spent trying to make new friends. The biggest obstacle to that would be having social anxiety and low self confidence. Luckily, I used to be there and know of ways to overcome that and how to start convo's so you can make friends. Anxiety and confidence need to be tackled first if you suffer of that. So if you wish to hear more, let me know dear.
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