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I Found Porn On Family Computer
Hi,
I am a female preteen. I recently found porn in the search history of our family computer. I didn't watch any of it, but I saw that there were many, many searches for this. My mom and dad both use this computer, and I am allowed to use it. My older brother will be leaving for college soon, and he has his own computer, so I do not suspect he is the villain. Should I confront my parents? I live in a household where sex and the like are never mentioned, so this is especially hard. Thank you for taking the time to read my question, and sorry for the grammar mistakes, I am only twelve.
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It's a common situation for lots of families. You shouldn't be so nervous about it really
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There's a chance that it may have been accessed by one or even both of your parents especially if they are the only other ones who use it besides yourself. You could confront them but the question is what exactly would you be confronting them about? They are old enough to be seeing that stuff so it is not exactly anything wrong with what they are doing although you could just ask them to be more careful about covering their tracks in future so you don't have to see what they have been searching.
However, this brings me to my second point: if it is just one of them who has been searching this stuff without the other knowing (perhaps one of them feels it was the only way because you did say that sex is not really something that is mentioned in the house so this was a way to vent frustration) by confronting them both you may end up causing unnecessary issues between them by bringing this up and the other finding out about something the other may have wanted to keep a secret. It's not really healthy, if this is the situation, for one or the other, not to talk about things if this is indeed the problem but sometimes pushing two people to talk about things before they are ready to could do more harm than good.
Personally I think it might be best just not to say anything for now unless you think one of them might assume you are to blame in which case it might be a good idea to just confront them and mention it.
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Another vote for the answer Adviceman gave.
Porn in itself is not a bad thing, it can be an enhancement for sex or something when there is lack of a sex partner or no sex life with a partner. What each person chooses for their version of a sex life is their own. This reminds me of a gal who wrote abut finding a sex toy in her moms bedroom. Just because she went snooping and found it doesn't mean Mom was doing something wrong and had to be confronted.
What you decide to do when you are old enough is up to you but If I were you, I'd do as much research on my own and get the facts Before I decide what I will do. I have seen enough porn to know that other than still shots, the porn movies are quite staged and much of it unreal for real life. The sounds and acting are just that, acting. If real sex were done the way porn movies show it, females would have raging vaginal infections every day for the rest of their life which wouldn't be very long, if following some of the sexual manuevers I have seen.
Now, If a person imagines in their mind an unknown person having sex with them, having all the looks to arouse you, then is that porn? No, people wouldn't call it porn. But the result is the same, its just another tool used to engage the mind which is our biggest sex organ. And when the mind is engaged, the physical sex can be lots more exciting/better. So do not worry about it dear.
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You are assuming that one of your parents is looking at porn. Just because sex is never mentioned does not mean one or both your parents are looking at porn. Porn could be used to stimulate their sex lives or a substitute for the lack of a sex life. In either case it is none of your business that what one or both of your parents are looking at porn.
My suggestion is you erase the history and let it go at that. Erasing the history will alert your parent(s) that you saw the porn in the history and they can come to you if they want.
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