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I can't deal with my cat anymore, what do I do?
I love my cat dearly, but recently I moved into an apartment with a roommate and now he's turned into a little monster. He has plenty of space between my master bedroom and very large bathroom. Everything he needs are in the two. Yet he keeps crying at the doors constantly wanting to get out and be in the living room. Then when he's in the living room he cries there too. He never stops. It's relentless and for the past two weeks I haven't gotten any sleep as every time he meows I have to chase him under the bed and throw pillows at him to get him to shut up only for him to start again a few minutes later.
I've become increasingly angrier about this and found myself pinning him down today and threatening to hit him with my shoe. I didn't do it of course, I'm not an abuser, but I'm afraid with the lack of sleep I'm going to break one day and actually hit him.
He seems to understand he's making me angry as he often jumps on the bed after these bouts of crying and tries to cuddle with me and lay in my arms purring. Yet he keeps doing it!
I also can't seem to break this habit of his as when I'm not home and he starts meowing my roommate says "she has to let him out" because he meows so loud she's afraid the neighbors will complain.
I don't know what to do. Ir breaks my heart, but I'm about to take him back to the SPCA. I can't deal with this much longer.
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I had two cats who were causing problems. We just recently moved and was thinking about bringing them but put them in a shelter instead. They were climbing onto our counters and eating our food smh. They were beautiful loving cats especially my girl cat, she always loves to cuddle but she was too bad. She was the ring leader. We ended up getting a cage to put them in at night. Try doing that an hour before you go to bed or at a certain time so the cat can become accustomed to it like ours did. Also take it to the vet something can be wrong with the cat as well. But it can also just be the move sometimes it takes animals a while for them to cope with changes. If he's let out the cat prob has flees too. So try taking him to the vet so they can examine him and also talk to the vet about this problem and see what they say. Vets are very helpful. Helped us with ours. Ultimately we had to give them to a shelter because of sanitary reasons.
I hope this advice helps. LMK how everything goes with the vet. Just be a little more patient.
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Your cat is not happy with the new living arrangements. Animals are not that different from people in many ways. Your cat can't talk to you in human language to tell you it does not like the new arrangements or perhaps the roommate. However if he's stuck in just your bedroom or the bath, he probably hardly ever see's the roommate.
Lets say you had to move to a new city, no body you knew, you wouldn't be too happy for a while until you could make new friends. Your cat doesn't have the chance to make any new friends, human or animals. Before you get the idea that another cat might help, each pet has its own personality. So some are just not going to want to be friends with some animals and there is no way to predict ahead of time. You are not friends with every single person who wants to be friends with you for same reason.
I don't know about cats living arrangement before but if it was allowed outside or allowed the roam of the whole apartment or house, then being relegated to just the bed and bath may feel like prison. The cat knows there is a lot more beyond the bedroom door and beyond the apartment door.
Meowing is his only way to communicate. I'll bet he's saying, let me out. I am lonely. I am in a strange place and I don't like it. And you can bet he is going to continue to meow because he will assume that since you haven't figured it out yet, that you must be dense and need to be told over and over. The reasoning of pets is of course not like an adults, it's more like a childs. Like when my daughter was real little and saw picketers at a store and asked what it was for. We told her the signs meant they wanted to get paid more. Her Dad was unemployed at the moment so her solution was, then Daddy should hold a sign so he can get more money. Your cat does not understand that it can not go back to where it used to live, that things can't be the same as what it really wants from before. Your wanting the cat to be quiet is like asking a 3 yr old child to amuse itself in one room of the house all day and never make a peep. NOt. Going. To. Happen. If you had an old overweight, inactive cat that likes to sleep all the time, then it might work, but not for this cat. There is no solution I can see. So if there isn't family who can take him or wants him, advertise, looking for a home for him or take him to a shelter last choice. And if you are so frustrated you know you will lash out unfairly at the cat, then you need to do the adult thing and find it a new home. If you need your 'petting a cat' fix, get it by petting cats of family or friends, and do not get a cat until you are stable and can give your pet what it needs. A bedroom and bath is not enough. It needs companionship. Its not going to get used to a new place when you are not constantly there. I assume you work or go to school. Cats need to be able to interact with humans when 'they' want to, not when you want to give them time, they need to exercise, so hopefully theres something besides your bed. Like something for the cat to climb instead of a tree. They like high places. They need to keep their claws sharp so a scratching post is needed. Toys that amuse them, not toys you bought that amused you. My daughters cat prefers plastic grocery bags over its other toys. Do the right thing and find it a loving home where the people or person can give it what makes it truly happy.
This is much like a bad match in a relationship. Some guys are not going to be right for you and it wouldn't make sense to stay with them because you have feeling of love but drive each other crazy. Same for the cat. His personality just may be too different from you or its current situation. There's nothing wrong with the cat, it's just very bored and unhappy.
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