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Really stressed about pregnancy ..
Hi 18/F .. I had intercourse with my bf. We used a condom, but he looked a bit unhandy with it. It was about 2 days after my ovulation. And I still have a week untill my next period. I have pain near my kidneys but I didn't notice any change in my breasts. It's been a week since we had intercourse and I know it's too early for a test, but it's driving me crazy. Please help me..
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AskGigglz is correct about missing your period due to stress. More women, especially teenage women, miss periods over stressing about being pregnant then actually being pregnant.
As long as the reservoir tip hung of the end and was not torn and did not show any signs of leakage the condom most likely did its job. You also say you were two days past ovulation. This is also in your favor as sperm can only fertilize an egg for three days before ovulation and 3 days after. The more days after the less likely of impregnation.
Most home test kits can be used 10 days after the intercourse. The plan B pill Has been found to be somewhat effective up to 7 days after intercourse While I do not believe you are pregnant if you are not a full 7 days since intercourse go ahead and get the plan B it can only help you.
You are 18 now legally and adult and no longer in need of parental permission to see a doctor nor can your parents be told of any medical advice or treatment you may seek from a doctor without your written consent. You are also legally entitled to a sex life should you want one. IF you are going to have a sex life and wish to avoid the perils of pregnancy for now then do the responsible thing for yourself and see your GYN for a form of birth control that is right for you.
You partners should continue to use a condom regardless of whether or not you are on birth control. Condoms are not only effective as birth control they also protect from many of the STD and the HIV?AIDS virus. Until you are in a long term monogamous relationship and you both have been tested always insist your partner use a condom. It is your health at stake.
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Dear Really Stressed,
It is unlikely that your kidney pain is a sign of pregnancy. If you were pregnant, it would be a few weeks before you saw any changes like tender breast. Having kidney pain is most often the result of Musculoskeletal problems. It is possible that you pulled a muscle during sex, or during some other physical activity.
Your kidney pains could just be growing pains. After all, you are only 18 years old. Your body is still growing. It could also be the affects of something you ate.
Here is a helpful link that will tell you more about some of the common causes of kidney pain, and if the pain you are feeling is even your kidneys.
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Driving yourself crazy with the possibility of being pregnant is not doing you any good. You can psych yourself out and cause your period to be late. Yes, that can happen. Sometimes our own minds can be the cause of unnecessary stress. The best thing to do is not worry until you are about 3 weeks to a month late on your period.
That is when you should start thinking you are pregnant. You still have a week and it is possible that the stress of thinking you could be pregnant may cause you to be a week or two late. So it is important not to stress yourself out until you are sure that you are pregnant. Three to four weeks is the general rule.
It can be hard not to think about it, and maybe you should focus on other things that could cause your kidneys to hurt. I have been pregnant 3 times and never had kidney pain during any of my pregnancies. However, everyone is different.
Continue to use protection during intercourse and if you feel your boyfriend is mishandling the condoms, then maybe it is time to start looking into forms of birth-control that you can use on yourself.
Good luck and let me know what you find out. you can email me anytime.
Sincerely,
Gigglz
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