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The rape has at least shown that you are able to orgasm
My wife was raped when she was 15 by a 25 year old construction worker. She made a date to go to his house. When she got there the guy ripped her clothes off and raped her vaginally and anally. On top of that his roommate was watching discreetly. Sounds horrible and in some ways I'm sure it was but she orgasm d intensely, went back the next day knowing what would happen. She thought about that every time she masturbated for years after that. She also liked to be dominated, treated like a slut, and does to this day.
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With no question listed i have no idea what you wanted, just to rant or wanting our opinions on the situation.
I will say I have heard of this from many people, the husbands of such women and from the women themselves. It seems that psychologists have lots of research on women becoming frigid after being raped and never wanting sex. I just did another search to make sure there wasn't new info on the web, but there are very few professionals who will even list the fact that a 2nd reaction by women to rape was being launched into having a high sex drive. I'd have to say that this is almost 'hush hush' information that no one professional talks about. But there are a lot of women writing in to various sites asking if rape could have made them hyper sexual.
Professionals will say that women who have the high sex drive after rape are really feeling worthless and going for lots of random meaningless sex. Hmm, I don't know about that. Of actual people I have talked to, I found these women to be having a good sex life with their husband. I will say i met some bi-sexual women thru a friend. I am not bi-sexual but an overwhelming amount of women who were bi, were also sexually violated by a male in their past.
You know that saying, "If something ain't broke, then don't try to fix it". I feel that applies here. If she isn't feeling broke, she may not want to be fixed. So many women have gone on with their lives and this is part of them now and they would not relish losing this part of themselves if lets say a professional worked with their psyche on their past rape. There will be the wondering if the sexual drive they have now will go away after counseling so they may not wish to do so. I can't say that is the situation for you. So I think It comes down to whether you are okay with how she is right now. There are many women who have never been raped or treated badly as a child who like the things you mentioned she likes.
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I agree with the advice KarenR gave as well as not seeing a question. If you would like more confidentiality you can send either of us a private message and we will respond in a message only you can see.
Rape is a horrible act and can play horrible tricks on a woman’s mind. Again not knowing what your question is I can offer only the following advice.
For the rape itself the person who raped her can no longer be charged as the statute of limitations has run out. He can be charged as a pedophile as your wife was 15 and was most likely under the age of consent for the state she resided in. With that charge the charge of Statutory Rape might still be able to be charged.
You can talk to the proper authorities and if you know the name of the individual and your wife is willing to testify charges can be brought. Once charges are brought it is very possible others will come forward. It is rare that pedophiles rape just one child. It is almost certain there are more who for their own reasons have never reported him. As we are seeing in the Bill Crosby trial once one woman is strong enough to come forward others follow.
Chances are good this man is still doing this to young girls. Please talk to your wife about talking with authorities and bringing charges before he hurts someone.
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I don't see a question here. You may want to add one to get the best advise.
I think perhaps your wife needs to see a therapist if her feelings are upsetting. If this is something that is bothering you then maybe a marriage counselor could help.
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