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I really hate working and want to just be a wife, please help!
Before somebody calls me lazy, I'm 23 and I've been working since I was 15 and volunteering since I was 9. I'm currently on my way to a Masters degree and an honors student...so no I don't have a lack of will power and I'm not lazy.
I've hated every job I've ever had doing a variety of different things from web design to retail to real estate to office work to call center stuff. I HATE WORKING! I feel like I'm just wasting my life away every time I start a shift. Lately it's been driving me crazy and I want to just quit!
I always think about all the other things I could be doing.
I want to live my life. I enjoy domestic activities like cooking, throwing family events, taking care of my home and pets. I like spending my time going to the gym, to music events, festivals, to the park, beach, doing crafty stuff, shopping, etc.
I feel like I'm just wasting my entire life away slaving for a paycheck. Even days I only work 3-4 hours I get really angry about it because I want to be doing other things and feel like I've spent my entire life working and in school so I can WORK MORE! I'd rather die than work for 30-40 more years!
My mom was a domestic house wife who raised the kids for most of her adult life and whenever she tells me about it I think that life sounds perfect...except I dislike kids. I see them as more work, more messes to clean up, more money down the drain, more time wasted.
I wish I could just find an older man who's okay with me being a stay at home wife and making a happy home for us and doing all the chores, cooking, making plans, etc. Nowadays though every guy wants a woman who works just as much or more than he does. Things have totally changed and I feel like the whole world is against me. The minute I tell a man I want to be a home maker, he looks like he wants to spit on my face.
How do I find somebody who wants the traditional lifestyle where he's happy working and coming home to a faithful woman who makes sure dinner is on the table and the home is clean?
I just really don't want to work any longer than I absolutely have to. The workforce is just not for me...
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There are men out there who are looking for a women just like you. These men are corporate professionals looking to climb the corporate ladder. They are looking for well educated women who are good looking, eye candy is the term used, who will support them as they climb the corporate ladder.
Your side of the marriage would be to keep the home in guest ready shape at all times. Be able to put on a dinner with just a few hours notice for an important business interest. Be the social side of the marriage being active in all the right clubs and charities. They also what someone to love and who will love them for who they are not what they might become.
Never having a bad hair day and always looking your best. Especially when attending corporate events. Must be well spoke and willing to relocate as your husband moves up the corporate ladder.
Where do you find these men? Most are Lawyers; some a doctors and many have MBA's and work in the Wall Street arena. They all have busy lives and may not have time to date and find the women they are looking for. Many turn to dating sites such as Harmony and Match.com.
If you fit what they are looking for then I suggest you fill out a profile on one or more of these sites both you and the man you are looking for are looking for custom fits in an off the rack world. Dating sites are the way to find a custom fit.
You may have to give in on one area; children. Children are part of the corporate picture, though if your husband is one of the fortunate ones you can hire a nanny.
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I can't tell you how to meet the exact guy you are looking for. But one caution, do not place the desire to be housewife over that of finding the right man. And having enough money of his own so you don't have to work, should not be the only requirement. How badly do you really want a relationship with a man? If he's really looking for love with you, he will be disappointed if instead of making him the center of your life focus and love, that the home instead is your only focus. I guess the way to know for sure is asking yourself, if there was a way to magically be a stay at home female, and I didn't need a man to support me financially to do so, how badly would I still want to find a man for my life. I just want you to be sure. Whatever you really want is something you will have to find on your own. I have heard of dating webbites strictly for females to find well do to males of all ages. And then you could start screening from there. I have not gone looking for such sites but I know a person who came across one. I think you had to pay to join to be able to read any messages you get from guys.
However, on the hate working issue, I do know that if a person is doing something they really like, something that is more creative or fun and doesn't feel like work, that is the best job for you. Unfortunately, there is no business that will be perfect and have an opening or even that such a business exists. So if event planning or domestic work like cooking is what you really like, whether you still find that man you want or not, you might find a way to start working towards having a business of your own. Advertise where ever you feel to wealthier men are likely to see an ad where you are willing to bring them however many home cooked meals to reheat, as you can. Wealthier men who are single and don't cook can get tired of eating out all the time and for some it may actually be critical if they have dietary concerns such as lactose intolerant or requiring gluten free for examples. Interview and find out what the person pays to eat out meals every day. If they have special dietary needs and come up with package deals for him. If he can get home cooked meals as good or better than restaurant for the same price or even a little lower, I don't see why there wouldn't be a handful of clients for you and still you can be married, keep up a home if that comes in time. If it takes another 3 years before the man you want comes along, are you willing to keep doing the same thing you are doing and be no closer to your goal? I'd stick with the job and do the start up business evenings, so if its cooking for clients, cook like you are cooking for a large family, casseroles enough to feed 6 or whatever. You eat your dinner portion and package up the rest to deliver to clients along with whatever othre meals you have waiting in the freezer and deliver. Although you'd have to study what laws there are regarding having any type of business, even if event planning or just rent a hostess type of thing. I remember as a teen having someone call from my babysitting ad. She was an affluent older women who had no kids but needed a persons help with setting up a party for one holiday weekend. It was a fancy rich persons home party. She paid me well for following her instructions and basically just being an extra pair of hands to help get done in time. Hope you find a way to get what you want.
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