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I keep turning back to being a sugar baby because it's the best choice?
I've been a "sugar baby" on and off for three years since I was 19. I've had two "sugar daddies" and gone on dates with other potentials, but they didn't work out for one reason or another.
I don't necessarily like doing it, but the financial and materialistic aspect of it always lures me back in. I always worry about my safety and the fear of being raped or worse because there's really 0 way to protect yourself once you're alone with him.
I haven't had that happen though and my experiences have been really good so far. I was able to make four times what I make at my normal job in a month and finally able to start paying off some of my bills last time, but I had to put a stop to it because he started becoming too demanding of my time and my family started wondering how I was getting so much extra money.
Now I'm really missing it because I've had to go back to the life of a normal worker. I'm starting to see my bank account dwindle back into the triple digits and it's really getting to me because when I was a SB I always had at least a couple thousand extra. Since then I've had my computer crash, and broke a phone so I had to replace those and paid for them outright so I wouldn't have to finance them and I had a car repair as well as Christmas. I also of course had my normal month to month bills.
This is going to sound super selfish, but I also really miss eating out at high end places where the bill would be over $300 at times and I didn't have to worry about it because the SD paid. I was able to buy healthy organic groceries and foods from special markets. The food was so amazing and so delicious and now I'm back to frozen dinners and chain restaurants. I get really sad comparing my life then to now...
So now I'm thinking about going back, but the hunt for a good SD is really long and terrible. There's so many slimy men who will try to trick you and who pray on younger girls like me. There's also a lot of men who are just straight up cruel and will try to belittle you into sleeping with them for small amounts of money.
I'm also getting a new roommate in three weeks because my old one is moving home so I don't now what she would think if she saw me leave and come back at odd hours.
It's so hard living like this again though...I think about it every day. What I could have compared to what I do.
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Making a ton of money is fabulous. especially at a young age. you can experience those life thrills. But you also have to look at your self respect as well..
You are pretty much selling yourself as a date. I mean some people enjoy it a lot. and that's fine. but I do agree with the previous advicer.
If you go to college you will be able to acquire a job that pays well in your field. You are still very young so you can be anything you want.
However, if being a sb is what you are really wanting to do, I do suggest cam ladies. because like the previous person said it is safer..
One other thing to think about is that one day you may want to start a family, and you will have a significant other, will they accept your life style or would they strive you to be something better than you are leading your self to be
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todays world is even tougher to make ends meet in, than when I was younger. I worry about my daughters married/some not, as it doesn't seem to matter what they do. Husbands daughters was invited to join a top college for digital art, the only way to get in, by invite. SHe got her degree, a large school loan and no job. She is a go getter type, not one to be shy about approaching the right people. No matter what she did, she still doesn't work in her field and it would have been good money. So while a good degree is great, there are so many more vying for the same jobs today, that I can understand if you don't want to go that way.
I actually know a gal who is the age of one of my daughters. Married a guy her age who turned out to be so wrong for her and lazy on top of it. She was supporting him by working two jobs and finally got tired of it. She met a guy on line in a game actually... someone closer to grandpa age, and the man used to be married to someone his age but it didnt work out. He is well off financially and began courting this young gal and paying for all sorts of things while at the same time giving advice on how she could proceed with growing a business of her own which she has just started. It is working out for them as this guy seems to want real relationship, not just for sex. So it is possible. What you need to decide is if you actually prefer being with an older man who is more mature which is the case for the gal I know or whether the draw is only financial. Maybe its a little of both. If only financial, you'd have all your needs met and yet be miserable in a different area from finance, mainly relationships and romance. If you don't find a man where both of you care for each other, then its just a business transaction. I found my 2nd husband on a regular dating site. But in searching for dating sites, I came across one that was made specifically for Sugar Daddys looking for a woman. Not all are way older men and not all were millionaires, but earned at least 100 grand a year to be on there. THey did not all want only a young gal. I believe the gal has to pay to sign up on that site. Don't remember the name of it, but if you do searches for Sugar Daddy dating sites, you may find it. If you want money but not the older man, then the suggestion by MrKaman is actually a pretty good one to become a cam girl. My 2nd husbands ex used to do that for a while. We both became friends with a very open minded older gal in her mid 60s who was on such a tight budget and needed extra income. When my husband suggested she might look into that, a light bulb went off as she confessed shes still very sexual. There are men wbo go on line for cam girls who are specifically older. SO she tried it and was doing so good, she doesn't plan to ever quit and keep doing it as long as she can. Even if you go after this suggestion, you'd still have to explain to parents where all the money is coming from.
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I have a few options for you
1) Be a SB, if you are making money and no one is being hurt then go for it as long as you are happy with there choice. but is sound like you are unhappy with that choice.
2) Go to college. get a doctorate in a hard science or medical field. It will be very very hard. and will take several years of your life to get a degree and several years of your life to pay off the debt. but it can allow you to make a lot of money in the career of your choice.
3) you could be cam girl. where are websites dedicated to if. you view chat with guy and they pay for the time. you may not make as much money but it is safer you are in more control.
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You realize that being a SB is about one step removed from being a high class Call Girl. You’re being paid to be available to have sex on demand and to be an escort when needed. That is very close to the definition of a Call Girl. The only real difference is you are supported by one man so as to be available to him on demand.
While this life may provide you with all the material things you want without really working hard for them. It is also very demeaning. You are having sex with someone who is not interested in a relationship or romance. You are just an available vessel for what he cannot get at home. You feed his ego to get what you want and that is the tradeoff you get out of the situation.
If you are finding SD's who are violent then you are running in the wrong circles. Most SD's want sex and eye candy to escort them at the business places were eye candy works in their favor.
It's your life; I will not condemn or praise you for your choice. What I will say is there is great satisfaction in working hard to earn what you have. This is a lesson I don't believe you have learned yet.
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