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My mom wants to give away my dog. And I have to choose between my mom and d
I own a pug who is 5 years old healthy. My mom wants to give him away as she doesn't like him and prefers her home to b the same as before. Things change when u get a dog. I study out of town and visit home every other weekend but that's not enough for her and my dog. My brother is busy with his own studies and hardly pays attention to our dog. Mom is right on her part but my dog is my only friend. He is the reason I'm still alive. He is the reason I visit home. And mom doesn't realizes that giving my dog away would be giving my soul away. I don't know where to give him. What to do. How to do this?
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You need to tell her exactly what you just told us. Put simply illustrate the fact to her that if you are depressed and if you didn't have the relationship with your dog that to be incredibly blunt you wouldn't be alive. She needs to understand that and that the animal serves an incredible purpose. It's a bond that never should be severed. Even if you have to bang out a monetary agreement than do so. I'm sure she can't be that unreasonable.
Some people regardless of size of a dog are scared of them and or have no idea how to provide frequent and adequate care. Illustrate that he is a pug and small and easy to care for. They love everyone at least my two do. They definitely want attention and cuddles to be sure.
The next thing I would do is see your psychiatrist and ask for help re: the dog. Have him/her speak to your mother about the dog being akin to a service animal and how it's helping you cope and serving a very real and necessary purpose.
If that doesn't work see if your psychiatrist can't write you a note to give to college and make it so your dog can live with you as an animal with a special purpose and line up a roommate and dorm cool with that.
If none of this works reach out to friends parents and explain the purpose your pug fulfills, your mother being unreasonable and that you cannot be separated from him. If they can't take the dog at least they'll help find someone who can while you are in school. I'm sure there's a solution to this that will benefit you.
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Since you are away at college, you are unable to take on 90% of the responsibility for taking care of your dog. Lots of college students face the same dilemna when they go off to college and the pets stay at home with parents taking full care of the pet. It's a hard thing because Mom and Dad are then like a free boarding kennel for a pet. If they happen to like pets, no problem but if they don't, imposing on them can cause bad blood between you and them. So since you realize Mom is right, its time that you search outside the family to find someone who loves animals, has a dog or two of their own and wouldn't mind adding yours for the duration of your college days. If you go this route, it would be wise to offer to give them money for at least your pets food if you are able. Don't choose a person who loves dogs but has none as they may fall in love with your dog and then have to go thru heart break returning pug to you, or they may not be willing to give him up.
Try other friends at college asking if their family has dogs and would they be willing to take on yours. If you attend a church, I'd have them announce it in the program. Its best to go with someone you know.
I understand why its so important to you, having the dog in your life cus it does something positive for you. But you also need to think about what is best for your dog at this time period and it needs to be loved, played with besides regular care stuff. So if your dog is not getting that, what might be best as a last resort is finding a new home for your dog.
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