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How can I make others and myself feel okay with dying my hair black?
So tonight I dyed my naturally blonde hair black for the first time. Ever since high school (I'm now 21) I've been wanting to dye it black because I have a light "porcelain" complexion with pink undertones, light blue eyes, and I'd looked up photos of girls with black hair and the same skin tone so I knew it would look pretty. However, people would tell me not to because they all said that people who aren't born with black hair and dye it that color always look terrible.
Anyways, This last weekend I had a mishap with my hair at a salon. I had asked the lady for light red low-lights in my then light blonde hair and for some reason the lady filled in all of my roots this nasty rusty red (she had me turned away from the mirror so I couldn't see what she was doing) and then did some very patchy looking low-lights. I was horrified of course and talked to her manager to have it fixed. Well it turned out they couldn't as the red just wouldn't lift even with bleach and a clarifying treatment. Turns out the lady was a fresh graduate out of hair school and didn't know what she was doing.
I left and let my hair relax for a few days and then dyed it all auburn red (which I had done years before and liked). Unfortunately because of the damage the lady did to my hair it was very porous in some places (from the bleach) and sucked in all the color, which resulted in very dark red hair on the top and crayon red hair on the bottom. It didn't look terrible actually, it looked like an ombre and I got a lot of compliments about it, but also a lot of weird looks and obvious "what did you do that for?" statements.
I have two formal events coming up as well as an internship search and I want my hair to look professional. At first I was scared because I didn't want to go to yet another salon to fix it and I didn't know how I could possibly fix it myself and then it clicked in my head to just dye it black.
Now the deed's been done and I'm afraid people are going to freak. It DOES look really pretty on me like I suspected because I have the right skin tone for it and know how to do my makeup to compliment it, but I know just the action of it is going to make people think I'm going through some kind of phase (especially because it's gone from blonde, to blonde with nasty red mixed in, to red, to black in a week).
I also feel a little sad because although I like it, I know there's no going back now. It'll be a very long time before I can go back to a lighter color especially blonde.
How can I make myself and others feel better about it? I don't want people to think I'm just some crazy young adult trying to be edgy. :(
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It's just hair in the end. Who cares what anyone else thinks? Consider the source. It's your hair and you love it and know that it looks great. That's all that matters.
You owe nobody an explanation or longwinded story about how you went from blonde to screwed up hair and then to black. That is unless you want to tell them to avoid X,Y,Z salon. Rock black hair and just go about your business.
If people like it great and if they don't tough shit for them. It's outright rude to tell anyone you hate something about their appearance. You cannot control what goes on in the heads of others or how they will perceive you.
If they think you're just trying to be edgy or crazy by having your hair a different color than what does that say about who they are? Don't worry about the social events or anything else if you love your new look wear it with pride.
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To be brutally honest as I tell everyone with this type of question. The only person you need to please is yourself. If you feel you need to justify what you have done with your hair, which you truly do not need to do. You have a very valid and compelling story to tell just as you have told us.
A stylist ruined your natural hair color when you asked for highlights. They have seen the fix they did to try and correct the mistake While you liked it you do not feel you could present a professional appearance with your hair that way and you have dyed it the only color that would cover up both the damage and the fix they dried.
The fact that it is a true story you will be able to tell it consistently to anyone who may ask. When and if these people compare notes they will see the consistency and believe you.
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