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Moving Away From Home for The Summer, & Finding a Job


Question Posted Wednesday June 24 2015, 12:21 pm

Over the past 24 years of my life, I have never been able to develop a bond with my mother. Recently I have grown sick of her lies. She's lied about nearly being raped, told hurtful lies about people to alienate me from members of my family, and I just really want a break from her.

My boyfriend's mom has said that I could move in there for the summer. I think that this would be a good choice for me. It would give me a break from my home life, allow me to explore the option of living with her son, and get more practice with driving to take my road test. I have been with him for 4 years, and have been wanting to do this anyway.

The problem is that he lives out of state, and I am concerned about getting some kind of a job. The last job I held, I left in January 2014. I graduate in 2016, and do not want to look like a loser.

I've applied for internships in New York City, which is kind of the midway point between where we live, but while I get interviews, I have had no luck finding employment as of yet.

So, my question is, how do I start looking for work? If I get a job for the time being, for example, working at a grocery store, convenience store, or any such location near where he lives... how do I bring up about the length of time that I want to stay there? Should I just lie, and say that I have a NYS ID because I just moved there, and then leave once school starts up again?


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Dragonflymagic answered Wednesday June 24 2015, 2:21 pm:
YOu explain you are looking for work for just the summer as you are going back to school in the fall. That is a valid reason, no other reason needed. If asked about ID from another area, you are staying the summer with friends or relatives who live here and will be going back home for school come fall. That's it. And that's the truth.

I am glad to hear you're taking this step to break away from home and gain your independance. Even if you had a more normal mentally healthier mom, it's high time you make the break away from parents and start living on your own, with roommates or a boyfriend. thats how its supposed to be. For a temp job, you'd have to find something that doesnt pertain to your degree since a company like that is very unlikely to hire you for jgroceries, coffee barista or think of what places in your area get the summer tourist trade or even more local people like a water park, parks department programs, the library, amusement park and so on, to work a temp job. Or better yet, go to a temp agency, explain your situation and have them place you in a job with the skills you already have that an employer needs covered for two months. Perhaps some gal is out on maternity leave and asked for more time away and they need to temporarily fill her spot. You dont know where these jobs are but a temp agency will know. So do that if nothing else. It will also make you feel better about your self.

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