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Why can't I orgasm?
Hello everyone, I am having sexual frustration as well is my partner. I am a female and I cannot orgasm. When he plays with my clit it becomes ticklish and feels good but it's almost uncomfortable at the same time. And when I really start going my legs normally spaz and my body jolts and then he tries again and the same thing keeps happening. Can anyone give me ANY advice on how to relax, or to make my legs stop spazzing, literally ANY kind of advice or tips. I want to orgasm so bad and I get in the way of myself from getting there. Also, when a female does orgasm, does she always cum? Thankyou!!
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When it comes to orgasms there are mainly two types of women in the world. Those that come from vaginal stimulation and those that come from clitoral stimulation. There are a few women whose nipples are so sensitive, usually nursing mothers, that they can orgasm through nipple stimulation or nursing their baby.
What you need to do is either experiment on yourself through masturbation and see which works best for you or ask your boyfriend for help.
Those leg spasms you are having and body jolts may be you orgasm or the start of one. Your over sensitive clitoris may kill off the orgasm.
If you must still hide your sexual activity from your parents then that too may be causing a problem with your ability to orgasm. Men or much different then women fro them it is more mechanical. For women it is more complex.
A women must be comfortable in her surroundings when having sex. She must feel safe and safe from intrusion, this stays with her when children come along as she will always fear her children will need her or intrude. Comfort is in two parts, she must be comfortable in her surroundings and what she is having sex on. A bed or couch is preferred over the back seat of a car or out in the woods.
IF you decide to ask you BF to help you find out it your vaginal or clitoral you two must first have conversation. Believe it or not men have to be trained into how to have sex with you. We have the basics but each women is different in what she likes and dislikes and how she likes to be touched and caressed. This need to be taught to us.
IF he agrees to help you it is best if you satisfy him first with a BJ or HJ so he will relax and take his time. The problem with most men under the age of 25 and single is they rush to climax and they rush through foreplay. By getting him off first you may find all you really need is an extended make out and foreplay session.
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You and your partner should try testing the waters more. Try to explore more things into helping you climax. Have your boyfriend try different things and see if anything makes you less or more turned on. Music often helps, and I heard keeping your feet warm can make you relax more. There are tons of tips on the Internet on how to get (incertain gender) to orgasm. And yes, usually the girl cums.
Hope this helps~
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Have you ever orgasmed? By yourself, through masturbation?
That's really the place to start. It's difficult to tell your partner what works best for you, if you don't actually know. You might also be struggling because you don't know what sensation to expect and are psyching yourself out. Masturbation is really helpful at figuring your own sexual response out. Many women struggle to reach orgasm - especially with partner. It's not abnormal, but it's is unusual not to masturbate. Most people do, even most women. If you don't, you shouldn't seriously consider giving it a go.
Women can be quite unique, so I'm not going to give you any explicit advice beyond that: Masturbate.
As for your other question, very few women ejaculate when they orgasm. That is an uncommon phenomenon.
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