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how can I stop doing this and focus in school ?
iam young and I've had sex with 4 different guys all at different times I knew them well 3 of them last night it was random unknown guy I ha just met , it all started when I was in long relationship and lost my virginty , I wa highly depressed and got a fwb , then another fwb , I wasn't to stop this these both guys are my neighbors I wanna focus in school , I don't want to get a bad reputation I've been having many problems this has been the worse I feel like the worse girl ever with no type of descensy my grades have dropped ever since too
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Listen hun I'm 13 and I can answer this I know all a bout this I learned at 6, but its your choice whether your gonna take my advice or not. Take it slow this is going to your head maybe you should wait till you're actually ready. Listen sex ain't just physical it's also mental, and your grades show that your not mentally ready for the sensation. I don't wanna be mean bit your becoming what they call a slut or now a thot. It's ok as long as you actually love that these men but its still not right if its not.i understand why you did, heck if I wasn't 13 I'd be a father right now and its because of the same reason your not a virgin now... We just can't wait any longer it hits us in our teenaged years. Get a tutor a mental therapist or just someone to talk to you to get this out of your mind and bring your grades up.I'll talk to you if you need me to just ask me and ill answer hun.like I said I understand I would have been a slut too if I weren't still 13
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Yup, what you'r experiencing is normal for any girl who either has short term boyfriends and break ups or gets into sex early and has the string of FWB type guys. Either way, the strong emotions of these situation will tug your attention in directions other than school work.
I remember telling this to all my 3 daughters just as they began high school and told them to closely observe their female peers and the ones who are in some kind of relationship with guys, sexual or not, just watch how their grades and school performance does. They did and noticed grades dropping and decided for themselves to not
"Date" in HS. I did not say it was a bad thing to have male friends and they were as welcome to come to our house as their girlfriends. The romance and dating things was best avoided until they graduate.
Why wait? Because as far as sex goes, once you'v eexperienced it and like it, its not so easy to give up. One can use vibrators or masturbate but you now know what having a male partner is like and when it comes to choosing between taking care of your urges yourself or finding a guy, its too easy to go for a guy. Basically, to stop you just need enough determination to say, no I cant get toghether with you anymore, its not you, its me, and it makes me lose concentration in school and my grades are dropping. Then stick with it. You could keep in mind to reward yourself for sticking with your plan by planning to only get together with your FWB's at a time when there may not be homework like during Christmas break, spring or winter break, and during summer. that way you have something to look forward to for being on your chosen "good behavior".
I can't really say why you have such a draw towards sex at a young age. All kids go through puberty and adjusting to the hormonal changes in their bodies which of course make them horny and wanting relief. Some have higher libido's and threfore need more than others. If this is the case with you, don't be afraid to masturbate as much or as often as you need to get that release.
When you say you dont want to get a bad reputation, I assume you mean regarding being loose with boys and you're not refering to your grades. What you need to realise here is that people, young or way way older, all have to remember that if they have an opinion to keep it too themselves and that it isn't their business since the only person any of us can change for the better IS ourself. However, not all people have learned this and some never do. So you may get unsolicited opinions, suggestions or even worse, name calling and such due to them being ignorant and immature. We can not judge a person based on past behavior. If you turn over a new leaf, you can demand to be respected for your current behavior and not your past. Every teen pretty much has done something they regret by time they graduate HS. this is one of those cases about a woman about to be stoned to death, Jesus pointed out, when he said, Let the one who hasn't sinned, throw the first stone. No one threw a stone.Course, I think he was dealing with adults, not teens whose minds may not get this. LOL If we are honest with ourselves, all have their own set of failures and indiscretions, they don't have to match yours to be better or worse. So keep in mind to ignore what may come your way. That may be harder than avoiding the guys. And good luck.
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