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Well ok I don't know what to do or think I have missed my period and have been craving really weird foods and I had sex with a guy that my friend hooked me up with and he wore a condom but it kept slipping off and I don't know if its a possibility that I might be pregnant because if my mom finds out she will send me away and I don't want that.
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You could possibly be pregnant. You never know in situations like these.
Go take a pregnancy test and find out for sure.
If you are, you can look at your choices of what you'd like to do.
If you aren't, and you're still planning on having sex, get on birth control.
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Take a pregnancy test to know for sure. If you are, then if its too hard for you to approach Mom first, think of other adults you may feel more comfortable telling of your predicament to. Perhaps Grandma is very openminded sort and supportive person, maybe an Auntie with a good listening ear, maybe a close friend of yours Mom who treats you like a daughter when you're over and you really feel comfortable chatting with her. Most every teen girl who believes themself to be pregnant is afraid to tell their parents for fear of being kicked out of the house.
If you told your Mom nothing, eventually a growing tummy will tell her for you. One way or the other, she'll find out, it can't remain hidden forever. SO the issue then becomes, at what point do I tell the parents and how do I tell them. I say, the sooner the better. Some parents will throw their fit of disappointment...often it's not in you as a person but because they had dreams of so much more for you. It's like the loss of someone or job, there's a loss of your innocense and your carefree teen years and they will grieve over that issue too. But most parents still love their children and eventually come around and are as supportive as they can be.
By the way, parents are legally to provide for their children a home, food, clothes, basic needs until the child is of legal age at 18. So technically, you can't get kicked out of the home.
But it can be very scary to blurt out such news to them. You may do better finding someone supportive who will go with you as you reveal the news to Mom. It is best to talk to someone at any rate as soon as possible. I don't know how long ago the sex was but if pregnant, you need to be discussing options. Everyone handles it differently. You shouldn't be pressured into one option by parents or anyone else but there are 3, having the baby and keeping it to raise it, giving it up for adoption, or an abortion. However if you wait too long due to fear, you may go beyond the time that medical professionals will actually do an abortion, where its not safe anymore, and be left with only the other two options. It is easier to find an understanding person who will be supportive if you reveal this to someone other than a parent as you are not their child so they are able to look at this objectively. Do that and ask them to go with you as you go to tell your Mom or both parents.
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