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Teddy Bear Sex
So I know this is kind of weird but I like to have sex with my teddy bears. I don't take off my cloth but it still feels good. But after I do it I feel guilty. How do I stop doing it. Please help me
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What you are doing is called Masturbation. According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate. If there are four people in your home of the age of puberty or older; three out of the four masturbate, statistically speaking. Yes this means you parents do as well. Most of the time it is called mutual masturbation as it is done to each other as a part of foreplay prior to intercourse.
There is nothing wrong or evil about masturbation. It is a natural way for anyone to relieve the sexual tension that comes along when we become sexually aware at the start of puberty. Most people just use their hand or a vibrator. You have chosen to use a Teddy Bear. Some might say the Teddy Bear is a Fetish. A Fetish is defined as: "the sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation. The object or situation of interest is called the fetish."
Some people think fetishes are strange or weird; they are not. Anything that has to do with sex is not strange or weird provided there is enjoyment, that those that are participating have consented and do not get hurt by doing so. That is the first rule of sex.
Using your Teddy Bears' to masturbate with is not strange or weird if you are receiving pleasure. If you are there is no reason to stop and they will do until a real life partner comes along. This is another thing about masturbation. By relieving sexual tension it allows you to put off having sex until you’re an adult as sex as we know it really is an adult activity to be participated in by two loving and consensual adults.
One last thing about masturbation; you cannot become pregnant or make someone pregnant from Masturbation. Masturbation is the safest form of sex. So enjoy yourself you are not weird or need to stop.
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I agree with the first poster here, its NOT wrong. Your body has needs and it sounds like its driving you nuts not to be able to relieve it so you grab the thing closest to you which i at the time i guess was a teddy bear. Thats ok.
If your not old enough but know someone who is, it might not be a bad thing to have them go and buy you a vibrator or something from a store that will help you with that urge when you have it and your alone. An understanding, chill friend thats old enough to buy one for you would do that. Or you could buy something online and ask a friend if you could have the package mailed to their house instead of yours and you could repay them in cash or whatever money you can get your hands later.
I get the guilty feeling because you know whenever someone comes into your room that you did that with that object and they might pick it up and touch it and have no clue.
my advice. wash the teddy bear, and get someone you know to buy something for you on the down low that is small and you can hide in your room or a drawer away from prying eyes.
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good luck.
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It's not about the Teddy bear. It just happens to be the object you are using to rub against your genitals to get excited.
Why do you feel guilty?
What makes you believe it is wrong to enjoy your own sexuality?
If you can answer those questions, thats what the issue is, not what the tools are that you are using to enjoy yourself.
I don't know if you are preteen or over 18. For preteens, if parents were never able to discuss ones private areas and squeamish about it, you may have picked up the idea that anything having to do with your genitals is dirty or bad in some way. That is not true. It's part of how God created us, to be able to procreate and to enjoy sex. For you to stop doing it, would mean to stop enjoying yourself sexually and I would never tell anyone to do that. If a teen, or younger, hormones that help your body to eventually change into its adult form are working in you and thats why you will feel the urges to self satisfy. If you simply don't want to use the Teddy bears, I'd suggest masturbating. Everyone is different in what they like, there is no right way or wrong way. So experiment with your hands and fingers on yourself until you find a way that works best for you.
The only thing I can think of why you might not wan to masturbate is your family being strict Christian church goers with messages from church saying that masturbating is wrong. I used to attend church. It is not wrong, it is not sinful, it doesnt harm you, in fact it has health benefits of stress relief from orgasms.
I remember as a young person in church trying to stop masturbating as I kept hearing messages that told me It is wrong. But I could not because it is a natural need in all human beings unless they are born the type of asexual having no sexual needs or desires. And that would be rare. It took me until I hit about 30 before i realized that self pleasuring wasn't wrong.
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