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My girlfriend can't cum
Recently me and my girlfriend have been fooling around via FaceTime(waiting till marriage) . She will start bouncing and rocking her hips it's so sexy it gets me there but fior her not so much. What happens is she gets stimulate and be totally into ready to bust and everything and you can tell by the way she moans . But when it's time to reach the peak she just can't do it. We have tried numerous times. The more we tried the more upset and frustrated she becomes. I don't know what to do also im a chick so it isn't even like I have a dick or anything and I don't touch myself . But I can get there but she can't idk wt to tell her. She is a virgin to so I really don't know what to do. She said she has never came before.
Please help me I'm tired of seeing my baby cry her eyes out it breaks my heart more then you understand. So many please please please give advice
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There are two types of women when it comes to sexual stimulation. There are women who are more vaginal meaning they get off having fingers in there vagina while masturbating or during foreplay. Then there are women who are more clitoral in how they get off. Meaning they need to have their clitoris stimulated during sex and sex play.
You friend needs to find out which she is. She needs to do this while she is alone without you watching or encouraging her over facetime. She should find a nice quite place that is safe and secure from interruption such as her bedroom with her door locked.
She should get undressed and get on her bed on start to masturbate as usual. When she is near her climax if she just has her fingers in her vagina she should use her other hand to start to stimulate her clitoris. This should send her over the edge and give her the orgasm she is looking for. She should also take her time and while working up to that climax allow her other hand to caress other parts of her body such as her breasts and pinch her nipples.
Of course is she is a very young lady a climax my not yet be possible. Are you aware that infants masturbate. Have you ever watched and infant rock themselves.
We thought for the longest time they were rocking themselves to sleep. What they are doing is masturbating because it feels good but they are too young to climax. Eventually the baby stops and we start again as we reach puberty.
Not all the sex hormones are released at one time. So if the advice I have given does not work and she is just entering puberty tell your friend to relax and give herself time. She will eventually get the climax she wants. She just has to get older. You two can be the same age but no two people go through puberty alike, we are all different.
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Hi there! Can see it's a bit awkward. You are, and she isn't as you might say. OK, I can see that she might well feel rather frustrated. But try all you can to keep her from getting really upset and crying about it. I think it's fair to say that the main difference between guys and girls is that it's extremely rare for us to masturbate, for instance and stop before we reach a climax. You girls are capable of enjoying it (and the mutual pleasuring you're enjoying with your girlfriend of course)without actually reaching an orgasm every time. You're more capable of having a satisfying and enjoyable time without cumming, could we say? It sounds as though she's enjoying it. Have you tried laying down on your back, keeping one leg flat and raising the other, bending at the knee until your leg makes an angle of about 45 degrees (or half-way if you like). It should be quite easy for her to position herself such that your thigh is between her legs. Then let her rub, press, squeeze against you, and basically just 'do her thing'. No pressure, tell her to take all the time she needs. Don't rush her. Let her control the action completely. You might try complimenting her. Tell he she looks good, feels good and so on to give her lots of positive reassurance. But stay a bit passive, meaning let HER find what really feels good. When she gets to that 'ready to bust' point you mention a a few encouraging words should help. But remember that it's 'her show' at this point. Don't try to take charge yourself. You're getting there ok, remember. You're helping HER enjoy the experience and share the enjoyment. It's a good idea to 'take turns' as it were, so that she you can concentrate on pleasing her. Think about 'getting it going together' when she's happy and comfortable with reaching her own climax. If it doesn't happen don't let her get stressed and upset. Maybe just give her a smile and say "you weren't quite there that time baby, but it felt good anyway, didn't it?' Or similar. Let it go, and try again next time. Don't compare performances. Don't say anything to lower her confidencee. Don't think that it's because she's not as 'into you' as you're into her. Just keep pouring out loving thoughts and make her feel as special as you can, any and every time you can. Fact is, it's extremely rare for a woman to be PHYSICALLY incapable of reaching an orgasm. The 'block' if you like is virtually always psychological. I'd say you are totally confident about 'letting go' completely in front of her. But she's having a bit of a problem being this free and letting it all go herself. So you're coming off, and she isn't just yet. I sincerley doubt it's a problem of technique, or attraction. She's just got to feel totally confident and comfortable about coming-off in front of you. The emotional/psychological side of orgasms is more significant for women than it is for guys. I'm sure she'll get there before long. Best wishes to both of you. And for goodness sake try to stop her crying her eyes out over it in the meantime. It'll just 'click' when the time's right. X + X.
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