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What do I wear to be flirty but not desperate?!
I am thirteen and this guy told my friends he liked me. He is going to ask me out on monday at school and i don't know what to wear. I am a brunette and i am five feet. I want to be flirty, but not desperate. I know i sound stupid, but i need help. Also, do you know any cute ways to do your hair? My hair is super thick and only medium length! Thx.
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I know what you mean. You want to make a great visual impression. You might want to make sure your hair is neat and glossy. So conditioner and lots of brushing. Radically changing your hairstyle can really change your look, and the whole 'shape' of your face so don't do anything too radically different. He likes the girl he's seen, you don't want to put him off! Lifting hair, away from your face often gives a slightly 'older' look. If it's thicker I'd be tempted to let it drape and frame your face though. That does tend to look more 'cute' and girlish. Tightly pinned and raised can look a bit severe. Don't know if you use any eye make-up usually. If you have big, darkish cloured eyes use a bit to attract attention to them. Big eyes are DEFINITELY cute-sexy! See what you mean about flirty but not desperate. That really means something that makes you look attractive, and not just going for stuff that shows as much flesh as possible, eh? I bet you have a good idea of what you 'look best' in? Not easiest, or most casual maybe. But 'best'. Of course, if you like the shape of your neck and upper arms a low-ish neckline and narrow-ish shoulder straps (or none) will look great. If you're rather proud of your flat and trim tummy then you don't want to go for anything that bags and 'balloons' at the waist. Something that fits closely round your middle will show it to advantage. If you've got long and/or nice shaped legs you can carry-off a shorter hem. Shoes greatly alter the shape of your legs AND your stance. Dead flat shoes are strangely harder to 'work' than something with a bit of a heel (which is more flattering). If you've got a full length mirror stand side-on to it and look over your shoulder. Stand completely flat-footed first, then pitch up onto your toes and push you heels sort of down (you'll feel your calf muscles tension and tighten). Almost guarantee you'll find the second look gives you a 'classic' leg shape and naturally pulls your shoulders back...and you make a proper catwalk shape! Choose colours that suit, think co-ordination, avoid 'clashes' and give a thought to accessories. Pretty necklace with a low neckline? If you wear a baggy tee-shirt no-body will see it, but with a low and shaped neckline it looks great. Hope you've got a few ideas? The key really is to dress in a style that suits YOU, one which draws focus and attention to your 'best bits' and definitely does NOT highlight the bits you're less happy with. Follow this rule and you'll look pretty, sexy and dare I say, a little flirty...but never 'desperate'. Good luck. Hope you knock him dead! X
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I agree with Dragonflymagic.
I don't think it's necessary to try to dress up nicer just because you found out he is going to ask you out.
Like Dragonfly said, it could intimidate a guy who is your age and you all of a sudden look different. Older guys might have more confidence but guys around your age might not. He might get too nervous and change his mind. Hopefully not though.
But besides that, it's not a bad thing to want to look nice and dress up for certain occasions when it calls for it but not for a guy asking you out.
Just dress in something that makes you feel good. Wear one of your favorite outfits and just look in a way that just makes you feel good about yourself.
Keep your hair cute and simple and overall, just dress in a way that you just feel very good and confident about yourself.
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Lets just imagine this guy never peeped a word to your friends that on Monday he plans to ask you out. So you are totally unprepared and surprised. So you'd be wearing your hair the normal way you do, wearing your usual school clothes.
Do you really think that he would decide to not ask you out because you look as you usually do? Do you really think he is expecting you to dress up and look flirty for the occasion of being asked out?
I have 3 daughters all in their 20s now so you'd think I'd have heard of this practice of dressing up for the occasion of being asked out, beforehand if this was a normal thing for all girls. But its only recently I am starting to see this on the advice site. I have to be honest, it doesnt make any sense to me.
You say you don't want to look desperate for a boyfriend. Well dressing up to look flirty to get a guy to ask you out when he already has intended to ask you out is overkill, dont you think? If I were a guy, I know I would be confused as to why the girl that I was attracted to for the way she looks normally every day, happens to look all dolled up on the day I want to ask her out. I might even feel intimidated as a guy. But I am not a guy, perhaps Adviceman might see this and give you his perspective as a guy.
I just don't see that as being necessary.
Just be yourself dear, thats what hooked this guy in the first place. Confidence in a girl is the sexiest thing she can wear. Men with dating advice videos for women from men, say so all the time.
You do not need to do anything special. Just be confident that being yourself is attractive enough for him and making yourself look totally different may make his lose his nerve to ask.
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