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Female masterbation
I'm 15 and I reccently began to masterbate. I started by fingering myself but it really gave me no pleasure. I stopped for a long period after that and then looked up techniques but I'm not sure if I've ever orgasmed or cummed. What I did tonight, I will never forget that feeling. It was my first time masterbating in about 6 months and I went and had a warm shower and sat on the floor while the water stream was directed at my genitals. I grabbed an electric toothbrush and used it as a vibrator since I cannot obviously buy sex toys. Anyways, I warmed up and loosened my body with my fingers. Then, I used the electric toothbrush and placed it in different spots around my vaginal region. Never inside my vagina though because that could cause infection right? But I kept moving it around and finally found a spot I assumed to be my clitoris (above my vagina), and pushed the toothbrush harder against it and the feeling is hard to describe but I'll try. When I found 'the spot', I found that my whole body was tending up and my mouth dropped wide open. It was hard to breathe and I felt like I was gasping for air. Then, something warm came out of my vagina I think and when i took away the toothbrush , my vagina was tingling for about 30 min. Is that cum or like an orgasm? And what does either feel like? Also, is that a good feeling to have or a bad one? I found it very pleasurable but I couldn't breathe which scared me.. Please help!
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Have you played with the lips of your vigina? You might wanna consider it. Imma a 13 year old dude and I masterbate too. I knew at a early age how girls and boys orgasm. Don't continue that way if your scared 😓 I don't want you to quit masterbation because of fear because its the best thing in the world. A guy even wrote a famous song about it called "I gotta feeling". U should play with your nipples and your vigina. But listen if you don't stick something I your sexuall viginal hole you wont cum. Which is the most amazing feeling in your life. To a man you'll feel num all over except for your penis and you can't opens your eyes. I'm guessing its the same for a girl. Also if you can get a partner to do it for you because you wont anticipate what is coming and you'll orgasm faster because you'd stop but they wont until you cum. You'll know when your gonna cum trust me. It's a feeling you haven't had in your life.
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Congratulations it sure sounds like you have experienced your first orgasm. You are also one of the few lucky women who may experience clitoral orgasm over vaginal orgasms. There is nothing wrong with being more clitorally stimulated then vaginally stimulated. In fact you should experience stronger orgasms if you teach your lover how to excite you and bring you to orgasm.
Sex is a learned experience. Yes we all know the basics as it is practically instinctive. But to have a truly enjoyable sex life we have to teach our lovers what feels good to us. This goes equally for both partners.
Actual intercourse can wait a few more years especially if you are getting the sexual relief you desire through masturbation. That is what masturbation is all about, especially for young women. It is a safe natural way to relieve sexual tension.
Most women are stimulated by vaginal stimulation, meaning having fingers, vibrators, didoes and eventually a penis pushed in and out of their vagina to bring them to orgasm. For women like yourself who may be more clitorally stimulated than vaginally stimulated special attention needs to be paid to the woman's clitoris during foreplay and intercourse.
There are sexual positions that you can find through research that will allow for the stimulation of your clitoris when you are ready to have sexual intercourse. The problem you will face is that the men in your life especially young men will not be aware of these positions for they learn about sex through reading and watching porn. Pornography does not address this issue in general you have to look for it specifically.
To be good long term sexual lovers takes time, communication and expressing to each other what your needs and desires are. Remember that sex is as intimate as it gets between two people. When you break it all down it does not get any more intimate than when two people their bodies to be connect through the insertion of one body part intimately into the other. IF you can do this then you can certainly talk about what your needs are to fully enjoy the pleasure this act brings to each of you.
In the mean time when you masturbate spend more time stimulating your clitoris but also continue to finger yourself as well. You should also let you hands wander over you body to find out what feels good.
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Sounds very much like you enjoyed a full orgasm to me. All your descriptions sound spot on. Your technique and the region you stimulated yourself also sound right on the money too. There is no real necessity to actually penetrate yourself. The most sensitive spot which is most likely to lead to an orgasm (your clitoris) is mostly outside, at the top...as you identified. And the rapid, quite high frequency vibrations of the head of an electric toothbrush share a great similarity with that of a sex-toy (a vibrator). It's obviously working for you, so no worrys...carry on. You might note that although commercially bought vibrators tend to be shaped like a male penis, that does not mean they are specifically meant to be inserted into yourself. Many women get much better results using them 'outside' in just the area you describe. Vaginal contractions during your climax are quite likely to make you extra wet and maybe 'ooze' a bit as you describe. Again, no problem. Tingling is all down to blood flow, nothing to worry about. You probably notice your 'bits' feel a little bit more 'plump' and darken in colour a bit during arousal and climax? That's the same extra blood-flow thing too. Mouth dropping open, a bit breathless and gasping? Again, all quite natural. It's your body trying to take in more oxygen to fuel those muscular actions that are part of the build-up of tension and subsequent release. Your orgasm, in a word. Nothing to be worried about. You won't black-out! The tension of anticipation makes yo breathless, the muscular spasms make you pant. On the emotional side, your climax will produce strong pleasurable feelings, it's all about neurotransmitters, think of them as 'brain fluids' if you like. Some have the power to make us feel incredibly excited, very pleasant, satisfied and so on. And your brain gets flooded with some of these 'feel good' fluids during your orgasm. The levels settle, this is DEFINITELY nothing to worry about...this is why it feels so good!! I guess you've noticed a lot of women getting a bit vexed about difficulty reaching a good orgasm, maybe in the posts here, or in womens magazines? OK, any woman can live WITHOUT one...but it feels good when it works eh? And you know what all the fuss is about now? Stop worrying. It's life-affirming, extremely pleasurable and satisfying, has NO negative aspects and it's just for YOU. Enjoy!! XX
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